The Queer Geer Mk. II: A club for the LGBQT+ crowd and friends

[CyanideCandy]

Hello.. *nods to Wilhelm*
I believe military itself should no longer exist. Discrimination? I think we are priviledged this way. Cause it's the worst thing to be manipulated into believing that you should be violent in the name of artificial slogans while you are just being abused as a weapon by the elites. There is no honour in fighting wars. I much more respect dezerters than those who go fight of their own will. Cause I can udnerstand protecting ones family and neighbours butvthere are limits. I could understand that people were fighting each other centuries ag over land and to survive. But now... We should have grown out of it long ago. For oir power as human beings is not in the primitive solutions. People keep being fooled into that deviant idea of "patriotism" and nationalism instead of just cteating awesome cultures and supporting each other. But maybe it's just the natural selection. Maybe.. Myself I choose the path of pacifism and compassion, balanced between reason and passion and... Well.. Go to the places where there is real war or look at the way some military men are treating others.. Then think: what the hell are you missing on? You really think it's something to cry after? I'd rather die than join the military. I'd rather die with my head up refusing to follow their orders in the name of humanity and real freedom than be turned into one of these robots taking pride in holding a gun against other humans. And you could say it's for self-defense. But every nation makes the same excuse. Always. For thousands years.
I know it's now about general discrimination not just the army. But it makes me so mad.. To even see the same "military" word.
Anyway. I believe people should stop perceiving each other in these limited categories of gendered schemes. And I believe that many actions taken by so called "equality fighters" are taking the wrong course cause these are based on differentiating us and seeing e.g. cis-gendered people as kind of enemies. Why it should matter so much what do we have in our pants? It does not make anyone better or worse. What you got there is nothing one should be judged or discriminated for.. And at the same time nothing one should be proud about. Better be proud of what you earned not were born with. Ha.
 

[J. Wilhelm]

While I agree that categorization is a definitely human construct, I think that the process of conflict involves far more, including biology and the laws of physics themselves.

Let me explain. And while I don't want to turn this into a political discussion [mod hat]note we have a "no modern politics policy in the forum[/mod hat], I'm under impression that humans have evolved with a" tribal gene" in place. Look at us now. We are grouping in this forum as Steampunks. We are grouping in this thread as LGBQT+ or Queers. We are grouping ourselves in this forum as makers, amateur historians, sci-fi writers, etc. You name it. Rule 34 for socialization (instead of porn)   but clearly a human construct. We separate ourselves by our common interests.

The racism, homophobia, xenophobia, etc. is nothing but a consequence of the long term isolation of racial and social groups groups which leads to relatively superficial differences in our anatomy and behaviour. Yet the tribalism in our society can take a turn for the ugly really quickly when we dehumanise the other group. "Our people listen to this music.. What music do YOUR people listen to? Because obviously your people are not the same as MY people." You have no idea how many times I have been asked that question. You see where this goes:

"I was perfectly alright when YOUR people were NOT here. I noticed that my life is not as good now as it was xxxx years ago, and I noticed that my bad luck started after YOUR people arrived. Therefore it is YOUR people's fault that I'm having trouble. I want to go back to the past when YOUR people were not here. That will surely make things better. The past was better, let's go back to the xxxx year, to the YY century or even the Z millenium back when things were all-right."

This is very much a tribal mentality, and you have to learn to see the other people as fundamentally different to you if you want to cleanse your group from the influence of the" others." You can see this process of dehumanization all over the world in the news today. Literally, we are living in an era of extreme nationalism all over the globe. The 21st. Century has turned out to be a great disappointment in that sense. The only thing standing in the way of xenophobia, is the characteristic "inclusivity" factor of a society. Itself another cultural construct.

A society's inclusivity can be measured by how similar people in the group think an outsider is to them. Compared to Latin America, for example, the United States has a really low inclusivity factor. Even though we have people from all over the world, we still tend separate into groups largely based on colour of skin, which I would characterize as an "American Obsession."

In contrast, racial mixing is the De Facto mode in Latin America. After the Spanish mixed in with the Native, after Latin American countries became independent in the 1810s, waves of French, Italian, and even German migrants came into Latin America (not just the United States - often a fact unknown to the American people as others in Europe). What do you think these immigrant groups did? Separate? Well initially to an extent they did. But on average by the 1890s it would only take 1 or 2 generations before these non-Hispanic Europeans started mixing into the population. Why? Even I as a half Mexican have French, Italian, Basque great grandparents, on the Mexican side alone, not to mention that I'm half American of English and Dutch descent. Yet people in  the US will "pull the colour" out of me and ask me, "What music do YOUR people listen to"? Geeze I don't know..." So I feel like answering, "Normally I rip the skull off a goat and use it as a drum in preparation for ritual human sacrifice. You know, it's an Aztec thing."  

So what to do about it? The problem is I don't know how other than education. Literally undoing the tribal propaganda of political leaders. What must be true is that going to the past is not the answer for those tribal groups. There is something called Entropy which is a fundamental characteristic of the universe (linked to the fact that time only flows forward). Entropy is defined as a state of disorder. Look around you. Wherever there is a major conflict and abuse of one group over the other you usually find the same argument at the centre of the conflict :

"I was perfectly alright when YOUR people were NOT here. I noticed that my life is not as good now as it was xxxx years ago/ YY centuries ago, and I noticed that my bad luck started after YOUR people arrived. Therefore it is YOUR people's fault that I'm having trouble now. I want to go back to the past when YOUR people were not here. That will surely make things better. The past was better, let's go back to the xxxx year, to the YY century or even the Z millenium back when things were all-right."

Look at the worst offenders around the world. The argument is exactly the same regardless of their colour of skin, religion, nationality, you name it. We have now large swathes of people around the world wanting to go back to the past. In any continent you look at. They want to go back as far as 5000 years ago, or as recent as 60 years ago, because "those were the good times."  An infantile illusion forwarded by the tribal mentality, which may be an evolutionary trait of primates. But when they try to make society go back, all they accomplish is to create intolerance, violence and destruction. That is the very definition of entropy. The penalty mother nature makes you pay for trying to reverse the time arrow.

[J. Wilhelm]

In other news: meet transgender model Teddy Quinlivan, who has been working in the fashion industry under the guise of a cisgender woman for some time now, and who just revealed her identity.

http://www.cnn.com/style/article/teddy-quinlivan-transgender-model/index.html

[CyanideCandy]

I'll never really understand humans or feel like one of them...

[Aubreay Fallowfield]

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[J. Wilhelm]

What was going on in Austin these last 2 weeks: Austin Gay and Lesbian International Film Festival 2017

http://agliff.org/2017-festival-2/

https://vimeo.com/102676182

[Dr. Wilson Montgomery]

Long time, no see.
I used to hang around here quite alot until about 4-5 years ago, managed to completely forget the forum and finally found it again and thout I´d drop pby to see ifg any of the folks I knew back then are still here?

As for who I am?
So. Well.
This is probably the only forum where I dont go under my ages-old handle "Hemlox", so feel free to look for me elsewhere.. You´ll find me on several forums and boards, as well as my almost-a-blog under that name, and on Facebook, of course

I´m a slightly over-educated academic struggling with clinical depression and insomnia.
I´m not a happy person, but I refuse to just sit and mope about it. I do what I can to survive, and I´m slowly learning to turn my fear into faith. Or into anger, depending on the situation.

I´m  a 41 year old martial artist ( Pekiti Tirsi Kali and Wudang Chuan), and I´m also a geeky a roleplayer who prefers the various realms of fantasy and imagination rather than having to live in Static Reality with all it´s bigotry, hatred and plain ennui.
I´m mostly goth, figuring that since we all get labels wether we like it or not, I might as well choose my own. Still, I have a thing for cheesy 80´s music that makes me dance with joy, I love good musicals despite being utterly unabel to sing myself

I´m gay, but I loathe the gay "culture", and I really wish the entire thing with defining sexuality would be a non-issue.
I also love the fashion and style of the Fetish/BDSM-scene, even if I´m not into that kind of slightly forbidden pleasure.

I´m a lyricist and a poet - sort of - and a romantic who really wants to be more of a cynic so that feelings wouldn´t hurt as much.

I dream of going back in time to study Tai Chi under Chang San-Feng, take opium with Byron, fight in the Boxer Rebellion, drink absinthe with Strindberg, assist Aleister Crowley in "The Paris Workings",  watch The Doors play at Whiskey a GoGo, seduce Oscar Wilde, have te with Terry Pratchett and punch Stephanie Meyer in the face for ruining the entire genre of vampire fiction.

I still love the unfaithful bastard I threw out of my life four years ago, and I know how pathetic that is.

I´m addicted to books.
Fantasy, SciFci, Alternate History, Horror - you name it. As long as it takes my away from everyday life for a few hours at a time, and is reasonably well written, I´ll read it. Preferably together with a huge bowl of candy and a bottle of hard cider.
The greatest pain in my life at the moment is having to sell a frack-load of old books in order to make room for new.

I try to be tough and adult, but there´s not a night going by without me feeling like a rabbit cought in the headlights of a speeding car, and wondering what the hell I´m doing right here, right now. I say loneliness = happiness and most of the time it does... but merciful gods, I miss having someone to cuddle up to when watching a movie.

I´m rabidly anti-christian, but I´m not (quite) a satanist, but more Discordian/Chaoite
I practice magick, I harvest herbs during the full moon, I carve runes and fire off Sigils into the Aether of the Subconscious. I have an altar under a window to the east, where sits Kuan Yin & Gwan Gung, The Monkey King, Loki & Hod, as well as Ganesh, The Morrigan, Eris and Thoth.

When not steamed-up, it´s mostly a kind-of "corporate goth" fashion for me.
I work as a study adviser at the University of Lund and sort of have to look at least semi-professional, but at least I can keep my Docmarten boots and my
bright-red undercut´ hair.



I Live.

I Believe.


...and I dream.

[J. Wilhelm]

Long time, no see.
I used to hang around here quite alot until about 4-5 years ago, managed to completely forget the forum and finally found it again and thout I´d drop pby to see ifg any of the folks I knew back then are still here?

As for who I am?
So. Well.
This is probably the only forum where I dont go under my ages-old handle "Hemlox", so feel free to look for me elsewhere.. You´ll find me on several forums and boards, as well as my almost-a-blog under that name, and on Facebook, of course

I´m a slightly over-educated academic struggling with clinical depression and insomnia.
I´m not a happy person, but I refuse to just sit and mope about it. I do what I can to survive, and I´m slowly learning to turn my fear into faith. Or into anger, depending on the situation.

I´m  a 41 year old martial artist ( Pekiti Tirsi Kali and Wudang Chuan), and I´m also a geeky a roleplayer who prefers the various realms of fantasy and imagination rather than having to live in Static Reality with all it´s bigotry, hatred and plain ennui.
I´m mostly goth, figuring that since we all get labels wether we like it or not, I might as well choose my own. Still, I have a thing for cheesy 80´s music that makes me dance with joy, I love good musicals despite being utterly unabel to sing myself

I´m gay, but I loathe the gay "culture", and I really wish the entire thing with defining sexuality would be a non-issue.
I also love the fashion and style of the Fetish/BDSM-scene, even if I´m not into that kind of slightly forbidden pleasure.

I´m a lyricist and a poet - sort of - and a romantic who really wants to be more of a cynic so that feelings wouldn´t hurt as much.

I dream of going back in time to study Tai Chi under Chang San-Feng, take opium with Byron, fight in the Boxer Rebellion, drink absinthe with Strindberg, assist Aleister Crowley in "The Paris Workings",  watch The Doors play at Whiskey a GoGo, seduce Oscar Wilde, have te with Terry Pratchett and punch Stephanie Meyer in the face for ruining the entire genre of vampire fiction.

I still love the unfaithful bastard I threw out of my life four years ago, and I know how pathetic that is.

I´m addicted to books.
Fantasy, SciFci, Alternate History, Horror - you name it. As long as it takes my away from everyday life for a few hours at a time, and is reasonably well written, I´ll read it. Preferably together with a huge bowl of candy and a bottle of hard cider.
The greatest pain in my life at the moment is having to sell a frack-load of old books in order to make room for new.

I try to be tough and adult, but there´s not a night going by without me feeling like a rabbit cought in the headlights of a speeding car, and wondering what the hell I´m doing right here, right now. I say loneliness = happiness and most of the time it does... but merciful gods, I miss having someone to cuddle up to when watching a movie.

I´m rabidly anti-christian, but I´m not (quite) a satanist, but more Discordian/Chaoite
I practice magick, I harvest herbs during the full moon, I carve runes and fire off Sigils into the Aether of the Subconscious. I have an altar under a window to the east, where sits Kuan Yin & Gwan Gung, The Monkey King, Loki & Hod, as well as Ganesh, The Morrigan, Eris and Thoth.

When not steamed-up, it´s mostly a kind-of "corporate goth" fashion for me.
I work as a study adviser at the University of Lund and sort of have to look at least semi-professional, but at least I can keep my Docmarten boots and my
bright-red undercut´ hair.



I Live.

I Believe.


...and I dream.

Welcome back Dr. Montgomery. I guess the Vapour Transmitters are back online! Indeed, we ever know when long time members disappear and suddenly materialise back from the aether!

[J. Wilhelm]

In the ndws:

Danica Roem, a transgender woman is first transgender person to be elected to a state legislature in the United States. Ms. Roem, a journalist by profession, was elected under the title of "State Delegate" in the State of Virginia. Ironically, she defeated an incumbent who freely and willingly referred to himself as the "Chief Homophobe." I guess a self fulfilling prophecy.
http://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-41913550

Germany's judicial system has decided the government must included a third gender category in birth certificates. The option benefits Intersex people, and is already available in some countries such as Australia and the United States.
http://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-41912754

[Mme. Ratchet]

Greetings all, I return from another extended absence. Have had a lot on my mind and a lot going on of late. Thought I'd come by to say hi and share a little about my goings on of late if anyone is interested.

[J. Wilhelm]

Greetings all, I return from another extended absence. Have had a lot on my mind and a lot going on of late. Thought I'd come by to say hi and share a little about my goings on of late if anyone is interested.

Welcome back!

[Mme. Ratchet]

I seem to do that a lot. Short spurts of activity followed by relative silence for a month or two or more. It's frustrating.

[Cora Courcelle]

I seem to do that a lot. Short spurts of activity followed by relative silence for a month or two or more. It's frustrating.

Well it's always nice to hear from you.

[Mme. Ratchet]

On the bright side, I finally have started on a part of my steampunk outfit I have a shirt made and have suitably modified my trousers to allow the use of braces. I'm waiting to get a pair of boots before I take photos, though.

[J. Wilhelm]

On the bright side, I finally have started on a part of my steampunk outfit I have a shirt made and have suitably modified my trousers to allow the use of braces. I'm waiting to get a pair of boots before I take photos, though.

We look forward to see what you come up with!

[Lady Coral Lesong]

Hello all!

I have returned from the misty region of Bar Examistan (otherwise known as the land of the Bar Exam for my particular state hahaha). I return from my third try at passing that wretched exam with a new bit of information about myself gained from the last 2 years of my existence. I recently realized that I am genderfluid, which to me means that I bounce around the gender spectrum quite a bit. I have in the past gone back and forth between masculine and feminine identities. Sometimes, I even feel agender or gender neutral. I would prefer to go by another name, but it may be too difficult to change that on this website at the least. I know that it would cause all kinds of legal/domestic issues within my life if I were to actually try changing my name legally.

Hopefully, my name has not faded away from your memories completely and some of you may remember me!
                             
                            -Lady Coral Lesong (also known as Corin Lesong)

[J. Wilhelm]

Hello all!

I have returned from the misty region of Bar Examistan (otherwise known as the land of the Bar Exam for my particular state hahaha). I return from my third try at passing that wretched exam with a new bit of information about myself gained from the last 2 years of my existence. I recently realized that I am genderfluid, which to me means that I bounce around the gender spectrum quite a bit. I have in the past gone back and forth between masculine and feminine identities. Sometimes, I even feel agender or gender neutral. I would prefer to go by another name, but it may be too difficult to change that on this website at the least. I know that it would cause all kinds of legal/domestic issues within my life if I were to actually try changing my name legally.

Hopefully, my name has not faded away from your memories completely and some of you may remember me!
                              
                            -Lady Coral Lesong (also known as Corin Lesong)

Welcome back Lady Lesong. That particular country which you mention has driven my biological mother nearly insane. It is not a trivial undertaking. For people in my academic background of engineering, the big trial is the qualifying examinations and the dissertation, because professional state licensing tends to be easier, if needed at all (aerospace seldom, mechanical sometimes, architectural always).

As a fellow gender fluid Steampunk let me welcome you again to the forum,

Cheers,
J. Wilhelm

[rovingjack]

I read this post on a friends book of faces wall today, closed it and then thought 'wait, I should share this with others' and dug the link back up: http://thegaydivorceechronicles.wordpress.com/2016/04/20/on-gender-expression-or-none-gender-with-left-girl/

[Fairley B. Strange]

Welcome home, Lady Lesong.
I believe this was a topic of conversation over in Dragon-tamers previously. So, did you achieve the Bar?

Or is that a question too open to misinterpretation here...?   

[Lady Coral Lesong]

Hello Fairley B. Strange,
      Thank you for this recollection. I had almost forgotten that I had mentioned the Bar Exam in Dragon Tamers in the past. I had written that first post after finding out the first time that I did not pass the Bar Exam. The second time I missed passing it by 6 points, which was truly so frustrating. This was my third time taking the exam for my state and I will find out in April (probably in the middle of the month, so hopefully it will not effect my niece's first birthday )if I have passed it this time or not. On the bright side, I was not stressed over it this time and I feel better about the exam overall, even if only a little bit.
                     - Corin Lesong
       

[rovingjack]

there was a joke posted online a few days ago. "Tipping my hat to a cute non-binary - M'Theydy" mostly amusing and harmless, to which was replied "Theydies and Gentlethem" ...

I think that's how I want to address crowds from now on.

[Caledonian]

i guess it's time to come out to this forum as ace

and whining a bit about how being asexual is really hard in a relationship sometimes. i got a nice boyfriend and i love hin dearly, but he clearly does want to...well. and I am asexual.
sometimes i struggle to see that having a sex drive doesn't void other feelings. i have said things that have hurt him, it's rough.

[J. Wilhelm]

i guess it's time to come out to this forum as ace

and whining a bit about how being asexual is really hard in a relationship sometimes. i got a nice boyfriend and i love hin dearly, but he clearly does want to...well. and I am asexual.
sometimes i struggle to see that having a sex drive doesn't void other feelings. i have said things that have hurt him, it's rough.

Welcome to the thread, Caledonian. While I can't be of much help or relate to that specific situation, I've heard of the difficulties in relationships for asexual people. I think we have about two (?) Ace members in Brassgoggles? We used to have more, though.

[Caledonian]

thank you for the warm welcome

[Cora Courcelle]

i guess it's time to come out to this forum as ace

and whining a bit about how being asexual is really hard in a relationship sometimes. i got a nice boyfriend and i love hin dearly, but he clearly does want to...well. and I am asexual.
sometimes i struggle to see that having a sex drive doesn't void other feelings. i have said things that have hurt him, it's rough.

All relationships are complicated, sometimes very stressful and always changing - sometimes when we don't want them to - but it's frequently worth it.  If he's struggling don't assume its your fault, sometimes there's no blame just bad timing or miscommunication. I see in another post that you are being supportive of him, but please don't forget to reach out for any support that you need too.