Well, my gaaaaah of the day: a community I was a member of for a while has decided I'm no longer welcome because I'm neurodivergent, and they don't appreciate that as it sometimes leads to interactions they don't quite understand. Like in a conversation instead of going A to B, I'll go A to R and that bothers them. So rather than talk to me about it, they decided to go to the community's head, and have strikes issued against me for each instance.
In other words, I can't be my normal self in the community anymore, despite assurances to the contrary. Probably the best part was when the head man told me "well everyone's a little bigoted," "I have autistic friends, so I can't be discriminating against you," and "You'll just have to be anxious whenever you post, it sucks, but that's how it goes."
Johnny, no. So today or tomorrow, I get to fill out a Discord discrimination report. Sucks, too, cause I do have some friends in that community--well, I thought I did, anyway.
To that end, ladies and gents of Brass Goggles: I'm autistic. I have ADHD. I have **extreme** PTSD. I am very, very neurodivergent. If I say something, or make a random connection you don't quite understand, rather'n blowing a gasket and reporting me, we're (mostly) adults here (and were all supposed to have been adults on that Discord), please, talk it out with me. I'm neurodivergent, not broken.
I've only spent the past many years trying to normalize these things in my regular life, to remove the stigma around those who have neruodivergencies, so we **don't** have to walk on eggshells all the time, and so in certain situations we **can** let drop the mask we wear every day of our lives (like I'm doing right now, and usually do with you lot, because I feel moderately safe around you).
Minor gaaaaaaaaah compared to others here, I know. I mean, "ND loses socialization avenue because they're different" in the grand scheme isn't huge. But I need to get it out of my system, especially before I sit down to make the report. Clear head, all that.
I too am "neuro-divergent" - on the high-functioning, high intelligence end of of the spectrum (think Sheldon Cooper!), with Autism and, apparently PTSD - it says so on my psych report. But I rarely ever notice other peoples attitudes or behaviours much - not even in school, which can be murder on the "different". Over my head it goes!
It's not so much I notice them or whatever, it's suddenly the head bloke of the server is messaging me saying "Oi, yer out of line here." "What rules did I break?" "Well... none. But people don't like the way you interact." "How you mean?" "They don't understand the context." "So?" And so on. Ultimately the final word from him was literally (pardon me, direct quote here): "F*ck off, sp*rg." (yeah, went full on slur with it he did)
Socially I uh... Just tend to putter about and do my own thing, try my best to interact as I'm expected, and reel it in when the wife tells me "Oi, you're fixating" or some other such.
All that said, it's whatever. I'm learning how better to deal with these type things as a ND. Mostly now I just keep to my immediate circle. It's safe there. I can be myself, and even on days I have no spoons, being with them is OK.
So yeah.
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In other news, speaking of mental health, mine's not doing great. I'm better today than yesterday, but won't lie, it's a bit touch and go. The Black Eyed Dog has me firmly by the throat, and uh... yeah. Depression is something I've struggled with many years, and here lately it's just bad.
No, I'm not a danger to myself or others, I'm just in a very dark place. Particularly with the way the world is right now, and my own history--the news and whatnot just doesn't play well with me. No real way to tune it out, either. Flashbacks are becoming a more common occurrence. The shorthand, as most of you can see, I keep my flag set as Sudan--that's where I grew up. Specifically, Darfur. I don't think I need to elaborate why the current world situation might be causing me issues.
Anyroad... I've not slept more than 2-3 hours a night for the past 2-3 months, it's wearing me down. I also managed to break my bedframe, so my already damaged back is worse.
In a nutshell, this past week in particular has been rough, last night was terrible, and I'm very, very tired.
May be about to take one of my hiatuses again...