Dragon Tamers - A room for those of us with anxiety / depression / etc

[rovingjack]

feeling a bit emotionally burn out lately. I've been running on high anxiety fince what feels like october (or maybe it's been a year now, and I just thought I was handling it okay until octobers seasonal ramp up). and after a year where my job got more miserable, I caught the plague and my employer didn't cover my out time, my living situation became more chaotic, a global pandemic, and national tensions, and multiple hard drive destructions taking over a years worth of work to the great beyond... And now my friend from whom I rent my living space catches Covid (risking the loss of a friend while also making it a possibility that I won't have a place to live if he passes).

I've wanted to withdraw and become a hermit for months now. and I've been forced to push beyond that, making myself work for months past the point of burnout.

And I got a recent reminder of the fact that I've been through this and felt this way, multiple times in the past. That this is a part of my existance, not just some transient fluke events.

It's hard to remember that mundane times that make up the majority of my life (and would make it easier to realize the stress and anxiety, and depression and burn out are not as big and all consuming as they seem) let alone the grand adventures and joys.

I know I gotta work on making reminders for myself .

[rovingjack]

goody lets play a game of "is it a virus, new food allergy, household mold infestation, thrush, malnutrition, environmental allergy, not eating enough, or stress?"

the symptoms:
off again on again hives.
feeling like I need to clear my throat or cough
tongue and lip feeling like I ate something hot and sour even if I haven't
disruption to my mood
disordered sleep
periods of flushing

what'll it turn out to be? how long will it last, and how serious will it get before we figure it out? Place your bets.

[Synistor 303]

goody lets play a game of "is it a virus, new food allergy, household mold infestation, thrush, malnutrition, environmental allergy, not eating enough, or stress?"

the symptoms:
off again on again hives.
feeling like I need to clear my throat or cough
tongue and lip feeling like I ate something hot and sour even if I haven't
disruption to my mood
disordered sleep
periods of flushing

what'll it turn out to be? how long will it last, and how serious will it get before we figure it out? Place your bets.

1. Allergy
2. Asthma
3. Allergy/asthma
4,5,6 Menopause

I always find that concentrating on any one symptom makes them worse. Most of it sounds like it is something you ate/are eating. Even if you haven't yet had food intolerances, doesn't mean you won't get them now or in the future. (Something to look forward to.) Take a look at any food additives you might be eating. There are so many these days, even in bread! I went nuts about 15 years ago and started making everything from scratch (even bread) and a lot of mysterious 'symptoms' vanished. And I never drink coffee or eat/drink chocolate after midday.

 

[rovingjack]

it might also be my b12, folate supplement. Apparently b12 and folate can increase histamine levels, and I've been heavily supplementing due to low levels. Vitamin C can help mediate that, but I've also not been getting a lot of that either. So I'll start slowing down with the b12 folate, and upping my vitamin c, to see if that helps at all. Some of it might also be dyspepsia with a small amount of reflux irritating my esophagus which can also occur with histamine levels (and since my digestive system is prone to irritation to begin with...).

It doesn't seem to be any one clear and obvious food that seems to be a trigger for me right now. Sometimes I'll have eggs and ham for breakfast and have that froggy throat. Other times nothing. Then I have squash and cucumber cooked with some soy sauce and have that feeling. But not usually right away. Then at work I can have water and rice cakes and phlegmy.

So for right not I'm going to assume I might have some digestive upset going on on both ends from my illness flairing due to stress. Mixed with high hystamine levels, partly from the supplements and missing vitamins I might have.

I also made the mistake of drinking a caffine lately. I'm very sensative to caffine... and I poorly chose to get about 3-4 cups of coffee worth of the stuff in a few hours this passed weekend. It took almost 8 hours to kick in, and when it did I thought I was gonna die. Full blown panic attack symptoms, and the rest of the day feeling fried but unable to even slightly relax. Didn't sleep that night, and only got about 6 hours the night after. and woke with hive on my left palm. They faded over the next couple days, and I had a hive on my leg after that. and then the day after that one on the underside of my upper arm the next day.

I'd say the caffine is something that can stick with me for a few days, and can cause some of my symptoms. Possibly hieghtened by the supplements and histamine levels, and digestive upset.

I will see if I recover from the caffine effects in the next few days. and balance my supplements a bit better. Hopefully that eases some of this. And then going forward I will see about doing some elimination diet exploration to see if there are any other signs  to notice.

[rovingjack]

when the forum went down and I revisited the backup site, I was reminded of past struggles that mirrored these, and wouldn't you know it the last time I supplemented my low levels of b12 and folate, it took a few days to notice that I was feeling like I was having agressive allergies to everything. So I've stopped supplementing and found after a few days those issues have resolved mostly. But in thean time I'm still having sleep disruption and panic attacks. A little less frequently but they still happen.

I'll have to see about getting my b12, folate and methmalonic acid levels tested again, and there may be nothing to do but make myself sick by taking a supplement for a bit. I just don't know anymore.

in the mean time my employment hell mixed with my aged mother having me help her plan for the end of life stuff, has me seriously examining my stability and financials for the future. and it's kinda soul crushing.

I've passed the 40 year mark, and have less than 1/3 of a new car value in money to my name. and as a person with a disability, limited on what work I can get to mostly part time hovering mighty close to minimum wage (which is $7.25/ hr). I'm having to make sacrifices just to survive on my roughly $1500 a month. And a simple setback like car failure, health problem, or loss of living space would set me back years. and I can't seem to get ahead enough to protect against anything, worse than that is that if I take a big risk that could help me get ahead, it would compromise systems I depend on to help keep my head above water, setting me back years.

Then crunching the numbers to see what it would take to replace those things I depend on to keep me at barely surviving, I'd have to spend the next 20 years earning 6.5 times my monthly income per month without missing a month or having to draw on it for emergencies just to build an investment that could sustainably take the place of what I curreently have, and still likely have to work to supplement that enough to not constantly feel like I'm struggling to survive and that anytime something could come along and destroy it all.

If I'd been given the chance to try a decade ago, I'd still have to earn 4.8 times what I'm able, to make the same goal by early to mid sixties. if I'd started in my twenties? 4 times.

If there were none of the artificial limits on what I could do and I could secure a job for the entire time from age 15 to age 60, I could put away a savings of 3000/month every month the whole time while earning and additional 1500 costs of living for every month from age 15 to 65... I'd have enough in savings that the interest each month would cover my 1500 a month. Leaving me living at the barely survivable level again waiting for anything to set me back years.

So basically, if I'm lucky, I will struggle to just barely survive for the rest of my life, and die early as my aging body increasingly cannot survive off the same scraping by funds. If I'm being more realistic, my car will fail me, I'll lose my living situation and with those my ability to get to and work a job, and then my health will fail and I'll be dead before I see the back end of my 50s.

[rovingjack]

Well after some work to get over and through that particular dark wood... It is not so hopeless as I felt it to be. I have some options available to me after all. And it would seem that properly planned investments may well gain me an average percentage of closer to 10 -20 times per year what I was using for my models, and that can be used to both decrease the time until the big savings can be reached, ans well as how big that savings needs to be to return enough to live off of.

And if I can get past my latest health issues. and make myself a plan I may well be able to not only build a retirement plan for myself that would cover my butt when the time comes, but possibly retire early too.

In the mean time I think I would like to put some of my efforts into making a part time income from art, game creation, writing, and my general creativity. I don't need it to be some grand career, although that idea of being able to meet the annual average income for visual artists according to the US statistics (annual $53,160; hourly wage $25.56) would be great, I wouldn't mind 400-1000 $ per month for all my adventures combined. And I'd gladly start that course with 100$ a month for a short while to work up to that.

I'm sure given time something will come along and dampen my hopes and enthusiasm, but for now I see the defeated thinking for what it was and how it was trying to make me give up. It's just as false as my flights of highest fancy, and I need not hitch my wagon to that.

[rovingjack]

so had a bit of infection or something happen internally, caused some problems and had me for a few days with a roaring headache and feeling like I'd been punched in the kidneys, through a couple shifts at work. Finally worried enough that my kidneys might be damaged or something I went into urgent care. Did a urine test, mostly normal, but found some glucose in there, did a finger blood test and can back with blood glucose that is under 100. Went down to the labs to get more bloodwork done and kidney function looks, fine, liver seems good, blood glucose is 98 with this second test. Electrolytes are good. My blood cell counts all look decent. Literally everything is as it should be, accept I have some glucose in my urine.

So I stress about that for a few days as the two things most equated to that are uncontrolled diabetes and kidney failure. But I've been mostly better than the days that lead up to the urgent care visit. So maybe I had in infection before and was recovering when I went into urgent care.

Got my A1c test back today. 4.8.

Okay, odds are against diabetes. and my kidney function indicators seem to be fine.

alright then, guess we'll move on and run a few other tests when the follow up comes along next week, like not getting any real answers then either. And hopefully get sleep and depression/anxiety under control again.

After that, go back to acting like nothings wrong until something happens I can't ignore.

[Deimos]

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[rovingjack]

yes I'm aware of that. but the point isn't that my kidneys are being weird. I's that once again my body is screwing with me and making me randomly sick in ways that scare me, but then being all secretive about what's actually wrong.

Whatever the problem, I'm still having on again off again symptoms. And it too much a reminder of past issues not to worry me a bit.

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being a place where we expose our vulnerability to anxiety and depression, it does seem like the right place for it. I know to a degree there is an aspect of this that is a hold over from when I was sick and doctors and my family and social circles left me to my fate, and having nearly wasted away (I ended up 40 pounds underweight, and in constant pain) I clawed my way to surviving, but adapted a coping mechanism of hyper vigilance and a near degree of superstition that if I have all the information possible, and know the correct 'counterspells' I can ward off pain, sickness and death that have a taste of me from when they had me in their jaws before.

I'm working on that, and I'm pretty sure it counts as PTSD, so it's not likely to be easily brushed off. And that's just the mental stuff, none of that addresses the struggle of chronic illness and the mess it can make of your life. So it is what it is, and I'm doing what I can to work through it, all of it.