Gaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggghhhh MK IV!

[Lady Ava]

I'm coming up on three years of being single, with no real prospects of meeting anyone that interests me. I have my own personal issues I'm working through that I won't bore you with, but the most frustrating thing is simply the fact that I have absolutely zero idea where I'm supposed to meet someone, and even fewer opportunities.

You'll find a lovely girly (or guy!) eventually, Promise!

[4_0_4]

I'm coming up on three years of being single, with no real prospects of meeting anyone that interests me. I have my own personal issues I'm working through that I won't bore you with, but the most frustrating thing is simply the fact that I have absolutely zero idea where I'm supposed to meet someone, and even fewer opportunities.

You'll find a lovely girly (or guy!) eventually, Promise!

Id rather meet a nice engineer or doctor ( hah )

404

[Guinevere Meander]

So, after doing some favs for a friend, he gave me an brandspanking, new, shiny, awesome wok of my choosing as a "payment".
I scrubbbed it and started to go through the seasoning process only to engulf the house in noxious fumes.
Turns out; there was WAAAAAYYYYY more coating on the thing than I expected.
Sigh!
Cough!
Argh!
Fan!

So I have to start the whole process again tomorrow, cause the man doesn't have steelwool on the premises and I'm doing it in his house to save my cats.
No steelwool, can You believe it ? ? ? ?  
Ordinary people...

[Banfili]

Must admit, I don't have any steel wool at the moment - it usually snuggles up to the silver polish, which I do have!

[Mercury Wells]

Damned, blasted chavy scummy neighbours having a 12 hour Bbq...(eg:- food & pop for the kids...booze & drugs for adults) session   , also blasting out the same type of R1 extra (c)rap

Those Bastards totally spoilt "Our Romantic Evening*" aswell

Why can't they be "all year open-season of this this type of scum" with extreme predudice?.

*a glass of dessert wine or two, a bbq'd bacon sarnie, then... 

[Banfili]

Oh My!
Advantage of not having any neighbours to speak of - blissful silence for the most part.

[Aleister Crow]

So, after doing some favs for a friend, he gave me an brandspanking, new, shiny, awesome wok of my choosing as a "payment".
I scrubbbed it and started to go through the seasoning process only to engulf the house in noxious fumes.
Turns out; there was WAAAAAYYYYY more coating on the thing than I expected.
Sigh!
Cough!
Argh!
Fan!

So I have to start the whole process again tomorrow, cause the man doesn't have steelwool on the premises and I'm doing it in his house to save my cats.
No steelwool, can You believe it ? ? ? ?  
Ordinary people...

I feel your pain. I just got a new cast iron one, haven't gotten around to seasoning it yet.

Come to think of it, I don't have any steel wool either, just a couple of brass bristled scrub brushes. They'll do fine though.

[walkthebassline]

Dishonesty. Seriously, not much makes me angrier than being lied to. Even if its something minor, which in this case it is.

An event occurred last night that had the potential to make some people uncomfortable. I was assured, however, that everything was fine and I was in no way at fault. Alright, cool, I didn't think much more about it. Seemingly, fun was had by all and no harm done. Then today I'm told secondhand that actually yes, I was wrong, please don't do that again, you took it too far, etc., etc., and the other person involved felt uncomfortable. Well I'm sorry, but if you aren't going to be honest with me then there's no way that I can know you aren't okay. Especially when you are acting normally as if everything is fine. We were in a friendly environment, doing generally friendly things, and it was a group of people that gets together several times a month on average. Those present who were not family members are practically in that category anyway, so it kind of hurts that they didn't feel like they could be honest. If you have a problem with me, tell me. Even if it offends me, I'd rather know about it.

So, GAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHH!!!!!!!!

[citizen_erased]

Dishonesty. Seriously, not much makes me angrier than being lied to. Even if its something minor, which in this case it is.

An event occurred last night that had the potential to make some people uncomfortable. I was assured, however, that everything was fine and I was in no way at fault. Alright, cool, I didn't think much more about it. Seemingly, fun was had by all and no harm done. Then today I'm told secondhand that actually yes, I was wrong, please don't do that again, you took it too far, etc., etc., and the other person involved felt uncomfortable. Well I'm sorry, but if you aren't going to be honest with me then there's no way that I can know you aren't okay. Especially when you are acting normally as if everything is fine. We were in a friendly environment, doing generally friendly things, and it was a group of people that gets together several times a month on average. Those present who were not family members are practically in that category anyway, so it kind of hurts that they didn't feel like they could be honest. If you have a problem with me, tell me. Even if it offends me, I'd rather know about it.

So, GAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHH!!!!!!!!

oh I know how that feels. Pretty major gah for me as well, that one.

My current gah is really just my internship. Somehow, I`ve gone from "I LOVE THIS INTERNSHIP" to "this place is kind of making me depressed and I can`t wait for it to end". Ugh. Only 3 weeks left! I`m definitely ready for something else. If only I knew what.

[Aleister Crow]

Dishonesty. Seriously, not much makes me angrier than being lied to. Even if its something minor, which in this case it is.

An event occurred last night that had the potential to make some people uncomfortable. I was assured, however, that everything was fine and I was in no way at fault. Alright, cool, I didn't think much more about it. Seemingly, fun was had by all and no harm done. Then today I'm told secondhand that actually yes, I was wrong, please don't do that again, you took it too far, etc., etc., and the other person involved felt uncomfortable. Well I'm sorry, but if you aren't going to be honest with me then there's no way that I can know you aren't okay. Especially when you are acting normally as if everything is fine. We were in a friendly environment, doing generally friendly things, and it was a group of people that gets together several times a month on average. Those present who were not family members are practically in that category anyway, so it kind of hurts that they didn't feel like they could be honest. If you have a problem with me, tell me. Even if it offends me, I'd rather know about it.

So, GAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHH!!!!!!!!

oh I know how that feels. Pretty major gah for me as well, that one.

My current gah is really just my internship. Somehow, I`ve gone from "I LOVE THIS INTERNSHIP" to "this place is kind of making me depressed and I can`t wait for it to end". Ugh. Only 3 weeks left! I`m definitely ready for something else. If only I knew what.

Every job I've ever had has been like that.

[Ulysses Reynolds]

Dishonesty. Seriously, not much makes me angrier than being lied to. Even if its something minor, which in this case it is.

An event occurred last night that had the potential to make some people uncomfortable. I was assured, however, that everything was fine and I was in no way at fault. Alright, cool, I didn't think much more about it. Seemingly, fun was had by all and no harm done. Then today I'm told secondhand that actually yes, I was wrong, please don't do that again, you took it too far, etc., etc., and the other person involved felt uncomfortable. Well I'm sorry, but if you aren't going to be honest with me then there's no way that I can know you aren't okay. Especially when you are acting normally as if everything is fine. We were in a friendly environment, doing generally friendly things, and it was a group of people that gets together several times a month on average. Those present who were not family members are practically in that category anyway, so it kind of hurts that they didn't feel like they could be honest. If you have a problem with me, tell me. Even if it offends me, I'd rather know about it.

So, GAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHH!!!!!!!!

I've found this applies pretty well here: "It's a basic truth of the human condition that everybody lies. The only variable is about what."

[rovingjack]

oh I know how that feels. Pretty major gah for me as well, that one.

My current gah is really just my internship. Somehow, I`ve gone from "I LOVE THIS INTERNSHIP" to "this place is kind of making me depressed and I can`t wait for it to end". Ugh. Only 3 weeks left! I`m definitely ready for something else. If only I knew what.

http://www.amazon.com/Could-Anything-Only-Knew-What/dp/0440505003 have a look at this, theres another called refuse to choose that I actually think is better. They are a a little "self-help/you are special" for me to not see some of the common genre styles to it, but all in all it's got some very good points and helpful suggestions on working styles and employments that suits each. There are also communities on web boards who are fans of the others that trade tips and ideas.

[walkthebassline]

Dishonesty. Seriously, not much makes me angrier than being lied to. Even if its something minor, which in this case it is.

An event occurred last night that had the potential to make some people uncomfortable. I was assured, however, that everything was fine and I was in no way at fault. Alright, cool, I didn't think much more about it. Seemingly, fun was had by all and no harm done. Then today I'm told secondhand that actually yes, I was wrong, please don't do that again, you took it too far, etc., etc., and the other person involved felt uncomfortable. Well I'm sorry, but if you aren't going to be honest with me then there's no way that I can know you aren't okay. Especially when you are acting normally as if everything is fine. We were in a friendly environment, doing generally friendly things, and it was a group of people that gets together several times a month on average. Those present who were not family members are practically in that category anyway, so it kind of hurts that they didn't feel like they could be honest. If you have a problem with me, tell me. Even if it offends me, I'd rather know about it.

So, GAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHH!!!!!!!!

I've found this applies pretty well here: "It's a basic truth of the human condition that everybody lies. The only variable is about what."

I accept that everyone lies about some things, I just wasn't expecting this person to lie about this thing.

I'm supposed to be apologetic and in the wrong now, and instead I feel hurt and insulted.

[Capt. Dirigible]

Yesterday afternoon some brainless arsehole ploughed into The Countess' car while it was parked in a designated parking bay outside my flats. We have no idea exactly what happened as we didn't hear the actual accident at the time due to the back door being open because of the heat, the volume of traffic noise and the TV. It wasn't until I went out to top up my phone at 3pm that I discovered what can only be described as 'the remains of her car'. It looks like something fell on it from outer space. The bonnet and off side front wing  is smashed to f*ck..snapped front axel,  drivers side wheel broken off. The whole car has been shunted four feet from where it was parked and the  guy took out not one, not two but three cast iron bollards embedded in the concrete before hitting the car. The third bollard ended up under it!!

The car is a write off! She's only had it since  December.

The guy left his number in a note so she rang him. He sounds about 18..has an African name and has no insurance!! He offered her £3000 cash to pay for it but that won't get her a car  in time for her to drive the 30 miles to work on Monday or get her the 80 miles home to where she lives. Besides..if this guy can lay his hands on £3000 just like that..well where's it coming from? Can you believe he actually asked for her banking details to deposit it!!!
After several hours on the phone to the police, the insurers and the AA we got the car  taken by truck to her parents place (not far from where she lives in rural Sussex) and we travelled down in the truck cab. A courtesy car will be delivered to her parents when they pick up the wreck on Monday. Til then, luckily, she has the use of her mum's Mini Cooper.

This has not been a good weekend. I have some photos of the wreck but The Countess has them on my camera at the moment for insurance purposes. Turns out the guy also severaly damaged two other vehicles in the accident but they had been dealt with and removed by the time we found out about it the accident,

I can remember a time when  in a situation like this one of my neighbours would have knocked and said "Isn't that your car?" when it happened. As most of my neighbours don't really speak English and we  have no 'neighbourly contact' with any of them any more..(I've tried breaking the ice but they  don't want to be neighbourly apparantly) we didn't find out about it til 2 hours after the event.

I suppose we should be grateful that we hadn't gone out for the day and came back to it late at night or that no one had started to strip the car of usable parts before we discovered it. It was, after all, clearly a write off and was  lying across two parking spaces now. That's sometimes all the thieving bastards  round here need as an invite to pick it clean!

We cannot for the life of us figure out exactly what happened..how it hit it and did such incredible damage. He was clearly driving  at a hell of a lick and this in a built up residential area with a children's playground and a school adjacent. 5mph is the legal speed in those circumstances.

There is a CCTV overlooking the scene so maybe we may eventually get to see exactly how this arsehole achieved this...

Not a happy bunny

[Lady Ava]

Been offered a very well paying job.
But it'd involve moving back to mum's, barely ever seeing Chris/Little Sister/Freddie and the Pets, and is an hours drive each way, on very long working days.
But the money is so good! Tried to compromise with them, so hopefully they want me badly enough to offer me a part time position!

*hugs for everyone with GAHs*

[Angus A Fitziron]

There is a CCTV overlooking the scene so maybe we may eventually get to see exactly how this arsehole achieved this...

Not a happy bunny

Sympathies to Contessa, hope she is managing to keep her chin up.

We had something similar where someone smashed a friend's car to bits outside our house one night. We could determine it was a silver Ford Transit what done it and that it smashed its radiator, so couldn't have travelled very far but we didn't have the benfit of CCTV. Did spend quite a while searching for their number plate as it might have been smashed off - I suspect in your case he would have picked it up to remove anything traceable. Are the police going to follow up, because, as I am sure you know, he has broken at least two laws!

[D.Oakes]

Normally when somebody does something unforgivable....I do not forgive, in fact I am quite vengeful.  Well found out that such an incident occurred, the problem is that I agreed completely with the reasoning.  The reasoning is all centered on my recent GAHs.....now the  has gone and caused a rift in my relationship.  My parents are both dead, my fiance and my cat are about all I have that matter to me that I wouldn't risk my life on revenge, but with one possibly leaving the picture....I am not exactly a person to  with.  Hopefully I will have the sense should the worst happen, to carry it out legally, but if I do not, I do not apologize nor excuse my actions. 

[4_0_4]

Dishonesty. Seriously, not much makes me angrier than being lied to. Even if its something minor, which in this case it is.

An event occurred last night that had the potential to make some people uncomfortable. I was assured, however, that everything was fine and I was in no way at fault. Alright, cool, I didn't think much more about it. Seemingly, fun was had by all and no harm done. Then today I'm told secondhand that actually yes, I was wrong, please don't do that again, you took it too far, etc., etc., and the other person involved felt uncomfortable. Well I'm sorry, but if you aren't going to be honest with me then there's no way that I can know you aren't okay. Especially when you are acting normally as if everything is fine. We were in a friendly environment, doing generally friendly things, and it was a group of people that gets together several times a month on average. Those present who were not family members are practically in that category anyway, so it kind of hurts that they didn't feel like they could be honest. If you have a problem with me, tell me. Even if it offends me, I'd rather know about it.

So, GAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHH!!!!!!!!

Something I try to abide to , is to never assume anything with any one or any thing , and always have 1-2 backup plans if you do .

People for the most part are dishonest - not because their always aware of it but more typically the opposite ( which could mean many things based on how they were socially conditioned ) and then you have the issue with language that can cause a lot of communication problems too.

Whats love for example to someone who uses it to describe anything from burgers to Clowns ,and then used to describe you ?

The fear of offending someone you dont know is quite a common problem If your scared of how you'll be perceived , and as you found out , eventually comes out any way , one way or the other. People get so easily offended when they assume things about other people or situations, because people are judging other people all the time anyway, esp with themselves.

Most " relationships " however do not do that on a typical level IMO because people have already established what it is they expect and are expecting you to agree with , if you dont get what for them is obvious , then what you have at best is a tense game of charades where someones ego takes a big fall .

If you were empty  , had no ego with all its fears and attachments to defend, or self pity to feel sorry about - why on earth would you be scared of being honest about yourself ?

Furthermore why would you want to undermine your own freedom , just to become enslaved and trapped by someone else ?

You see , the irony in most relationships is there is nothing about the person to relate to at all , its like a shadow on the wall whose rules were never clearly defined to start with and continually change - you need to have something of yourself that is permanent to move beyond that, and most people do not simply have that - nor ever will.

4o4

[rovingjack]

Been feeling a bit tired/spacey all day. Seemed to go away. Went to a lecture in the community. Sitting next to some folks I know I started to get a feeling like all the blood was draining from my head. I leaned forward and focused on breathing for a few minutes. It eased off a bit and I began to feel flushed and sweat. Then I'd feel spacey again. Finally I made my excuses and got sick in the mens room. After going outside for some air I feel tired and weak and decided to come home. My focus is a bit crappy right now, and the trip to the second floor seemed like the last leg of a marathon. I've been reclining for about an hour and I feel mainly fatigue but otherwise okay. What wonderful new adventure has my health delivered to me now?

[TVC15]

Received a phone call from my girlfriend's daughter. It seems the hospice nurse/caregiver has given her 24 to 48 hours to live. I'm at work and not there. My mood is crappy at best.

[Angus A Fitziron]

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[Lady Ava]

I've learned that I get so anxious about any form of intimacy or even just basic emotional connection, that every time someone tries to connect with me or come within about 2 feet of me I have a panic attack and almost throw up. I'm reasonably sure that's not how you're meant to react to a hug.

[Professor Phineas Brownsm]

as to a situation as gaaaaarghed in a previous couple of posts....one is now sofa surfing......but now has a sense of feeling a little lost and very unsure (i will be enquireing about LHA shortly) on what to do and where to go, whatever confidence that was about has been thrown out the window for the umpteenth time, i think its time to find myself again

[citizen_erased]

Internet here at my internship is...unruly. So to say. It keeps falling away. Usually it`d be back in 10, 15 ,sometimes 20 minutes. This time however, it took 1,5 hour, several restarts of my computer, moving to a different desk twice, and calling in the help of the facilities department. Then it finally just popped back on. I`m hoping it stays. I`m definitely staying at the current desk for now.

I was doing research for a project, so I am kind of glad I can at least continue with that now. But I`m definitely getting sick of having no internet connection so often. After all, we don`t have a library or anything here that I can continue my research on, and I need to be able to check our email and look things up.

[Dave Leppo]

-comment:  I find the variance in relative severity of complaints herein fascinating.