Single Steampunks?

[Samuel]

Reluctantly single. I'm 18, and she's 18 years older. we're friends, she has kids.. I love her regardless(yes, she knows, she appreciates how I feel) but she wants me to live out my teens without being tied down..

to hell with that, I say, and onto my 3rd whiskey

[GarethG]

Single and not very happy about it, but not self-confident enough to do any thing about it.

[Stella Gaslight]

All the nice geeky boys I find are already attached or far out of my age range.  I am looking less for a white knight on a valiant steed as I am for some one I can be a complete dork around with out having to worry that they won't understand me.  This is an older picture(I have slimmed down quite a bit.) but one of my favorites.

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[Magister]

All the nice geeky boys I find are already attached or far out of my age range.  I am looking less for a white knight on a valiant steed as I am for some one I can be a complete dork around with out having to worry that they won't understand me.  This is an older picture(I have slimmed down quite a bit.) but one of my favorites.

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You and I are of a similar opinion. It's been a motto of mine for some time that the best lover is also a best friend.

I also feel your pain on that already attached business. You think it's hard finding geeky boys, try finding unattached geek girls.

By the way, what is the age range you're looking for? You never know, you might draw out some interested lurkers.

[Stella Gaslight]

Not old enough to be my father or a babysitting customer other than that it just kind of depends on what they are comforable with.  I apparently look far younger than I am and it confuses people adding a layer of difficulty.

[Dr. Oliver Cross]

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I was going to say so in the "Playing Dress-up" thread, but with the recent stint of argument over what is acceptable to discuss in that thread, I held it in.

Different thread allowing however,  and if you don't mind me saying so, you really are a cutie!

Why thank you sir.  I did comment in that thread throughout the controversy that people are welcome to say whatever they like in regard to my photos, I invite such things ^_^

The Naysayer is absolutely right.  You are incredibly attractive.  And you have a very beautiful countinance, as well....

[Seaton Begg]

Being single is only a problem if you accept the idea of a couple being the natural state of perfection for us domestic apes

A quick look at an dating website aimed at educated people reveals the following 'ideal match' criteria for 30 something women...

Well, I will just sum it up. Funny, self assured, relatively adventurous, not a 'you decide' guy - so decisive, thoughtful and honest, Ooo and interesting to chat to!
Not much to ask for eh?!

Maybe like dancing too??
Just so you know, most girls love a man who can dance.. not essential though!

You are: adventurous, spontaneous, intellectual, caring, athletic, and the rest I hope I'll find out when I meet you.

My ideal match would have to be a guy who is funny and likes to laugh. Who can genuinely say they are kind and who likes movies, music, books and talking.

It seems that the ideal man is an attractive athletic dancing comedian who enjoys reading, music, talking and listening. He has to be adventurous and spontaneous, makes decisions but is attentive to the needs of his partner.

Nice to see that the bar is not being set too high :p The simple single life looks oh so appealing when set against the weight of expectation from those seeking a partner

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[Micro]

I just hit the market, ooh! I know, right? What a catch. I'll be beating the ladies off with a stick! Maybe even two..

[qubehead]

*Raises Hand* Single here!  My own doing, I'm afraid.  The qualities I value most in the opposite sex, taken all together, would require at least 2 women to satisfy them.  Brains, imagination, an active curiosity, all turn me on in a big way; all my most memorable amours have been with such women.  Yet, when I get home after a hard day at work, all I want is uncomplicated comfort- a tall drink, dinner, my sweetie purring on the sofa while I massage her to sleep and 'pitch to the devil' all that stimulating challengy stuff.  20-odd years of dating and I've yet to figure a way to reconcile this conflict.

I feel sad for you, for you are doomed to never find the perfect woman who encompasses all of these traits that you urn for!..., due to your overbearing need for perfection.

Now then my dear EE, let us hear no more *grumbling* or *scoffing*, if you please.  Did I express or imply any sense of entitlement to that which I seek?  No, I did not.  Did I express or imply any blame against the opposite sex for being what they are or aren't?  No, I did not.  I am no poor workman quarreling with my tools; what I am, is too stinking proud either to accept or be a 'make-do', and IMO any woman worth having feels the same.  If that means I must end my days as a bachelor, *shrug* "No complaints Sergeant, I rated what I got."  Self-pity is a vice I have always despised and done my (spotty) best to eliminate from my makeup... and I might advise others to do the same.

[Thaif]

Haw, these threads always keep me up at these hours, I simply can't resist the pull of psychology and the human condition. Call me curious...

And to give some relativity to my gabbin', I "too" am single. I figure this stems from the fact that I show my interest in any given person by..."drumroll"...conversing with them on every topic they can think of. Not for me the stomping, muscle, cars, and copious quantaties of alcohol. This causes the well known "Friend" label. Very handy for relationships of the male kind, one can make some loyal comrades this way(as I have). Yet the majority of the fine ladies in this day and age seem to see this as a flaw or at best, an endearing trait. Endearing meaning: Cute and harmless little brother. This of course all but kills any chances of intimacy with a butcherknife. On the subject of intimacy: To me this encompasses a Lot more than just sex, witch I figure is "Tops", but is a really huge juicy cherry at the top of the cake, but still being only one part of a tasty cake. To me, it's all those little things like the warmth and softness of your companions skin and breath.

What I'd expect from a close companion is simply: Independence and Wit. Pull anykind of Social conscience, liberal stuff, and I guarantee, you'll have my eye. To gents: as a likeminded comrade and a potential friend, and to ladies: All the afromentioned and hopefully more, if interests flare.

Thats all for now, I thought it might be nice to post properly on such an interesting tread. Oh, on other thing: It's funny how people allways describe an ideal partner, making up massive amounts of criteria and then topping it with: "But I'd really like them to just be themselves". Talk about Dualism.

[JingleJoe]

I get ID'd.

It's when I don't get ID'd that comes as a surprise.

Speaking of getting ID'd; My mum got ID'd. Shes like 38-ish ... I know it runs in our family to look young into our later years but ... really now ... what!?







... still single by the way, I need hugs at night

[Stella Gaslight]

My dear Ms Gaslight, you have surprised me too - I'm usually fairly good at judging age, and I too figured you to be no more than 25 also. Looking younger than you are is no bad thing, by any means. And may I add, you look quite fine.

Thank you very much.  I think it does a girl good to hear these things sometimes.  I wish I knew where all the single geeks are around here every one I find already has a lady.  Maybe I need to flaunt my geekness more or something.

[Gaduka]

Single, but not looking for a romantic relationship either. It's the last thing on my mind, and has never really been a priority for me.

[Xombiegrinn]

I live in portland! Depending on what your into its not hard to meet people. Infact its rather hard to avoid them...

[Mister Griffiths]

I'm single!

Heh, I like how I instinctively put a smiley after that sentence, as if i'm happy about it 

And how i've started using the word 'heh' more and more often? Now why could that be.....?

[BrassMonkey]

I suppose no one knows what I look like, haha.
The were-dragon without the scales:

And for a Glamorous shot XD

It amazes me that no-one else has said it, but my lady you are a rare beauty who looks both fun and interesting (I confess to peeping at your profile which led me to your deviantart page which has helped establish the "interesting" opinion, but I'm suddenly sounding a bit stalkerish, so I'm stopping talking now).

[Von Gast]

And to give some relativity to my gabbin', I "too" am single. I figure this stems from the fact that I show my interest in any given person by..."drumroll"...conversing with them on every topic they can think of. Not for me the stomping, muscle, cars, and copious quantaties of alcohol. This causes the well known "Friend" label. Very handy for relationships of the male kind, one can make some loyal comrades this way(as I have). Yet the majority of the fine ladies in this day and age seem to see this as a flaw or at best, an endearing trait. Endearing meaning: Cute and harmless little brother. This of course all but kills any chances of intimacy with a butcherknife. On the subject of intimacy: To me this encompasses a Lot more than just sex, witch I figure is "Tops", but is a really huge juicy cherry at the top of the cake, but still being only one part of a tasty cake. To me, it's all those little things like the warmth and softness of your companions skin and breath.

Exactly the same problem/outlook/etc here. I tend to talk cars though, which does become amusing when you encounter a woman who considers herself a petrolhead but has yet to realise that there are far more interesting machines than new supercars...

[Dr. Munro]

I'm single.  I find it really hard to meet other "like-minded" men.  I think it's because I'm drawn to the more straight-acting men and so tend to end up falling in love with just plain straight men

[living_soul12066]

Chalk up another single lady to the record, gents. I fear I shall remain as such for a very long time, as none so far can seem to handle my level of oddity. In the first place, I am only attracted to beings of the female persuasion, and many I have happened across fall short of my lowest expectations. In addition, I am what is known to the populace as a "furry." In case you are not aware, a "furry" is a person who enjoys the idea of anthropomorphic animals, usually as found in animated films. As one such being, I parade myself around the Internet as a five-foot-six anthropomorphic ferret.

Not only all that, but I have a high standard of taste. I abhor tobacco, and any person I date must know who Poe was, and know more than "quoth the raven, nevermore."

And I'm an air pirate. I'm doomed.

[Dr. Munro]

I know, how you feel, people tend to find at least one thing in my list of particulars to put them off.  Afterall, being a gay, vegetarian, socialist, Quaker tends to provoke some kind of reaction from most people.  If one of those doesn't put them off they then have to get to know me :S

[Owen_Stagg]

Here's yet another gent, doomed to the single life.  

Though I've learned to adapt, myself. I tend to find more than enough enjoyment simply from conversing with interesting members of the "fairer sex".

I seem to have the opposite 'problem' from what a lot of people have here, people think I'm older than I am. On several accounts, I've discovered after the fact that, if I had ordered an adult beverage, I wouldn't have been carded!

Dr. Munro, I have a friend with much the same problem, abet with different factors. But, then again, he's working two jobs, in addition to being a full time musical theatre student, and that leaves very little time to look in the first place.

[Dr. Munro]

I seem to have the opposite 'problem' from what a lot of people have here, people think I'm older than I am. On several accounts, I've discovered after the fact that, if I had ordered an adult beverage, I wouldn't have been carded!

Agreed.  My friends often get ID'd when they order some kind of trendy drink but when I order either a glass of Port or Scotch I've never as far as I can remember been asked for identification.

[Owen_Stagg]

I seem to have the opposite 'problem' from what a lot of people have here, people think I'm older than I am. On several accounts, I've discovered after the fact that, if I had ordered an adult beverage, I wouldn't have been carded!

Agreed.  My friends often get ID'd when they order some kind of trendy drink but when I order either a glass of Port or Scotch I've never as far as I can remember been asked for identification.

It probably doesn't help that I tend to hang around with a group of 30-something-year-old Renaissance reenactors.

[Dr. Munro]

You might have something there

[KatarinaNavane]

Funny thing, people have been mistaking me for a college student since middle school (I've been 5'10" since then and hang out around our college town)  but now that I am a college student everyone thinks I'm younger.  Might be cuz apart from growing breasts, I don't really look different than i did then.