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« Reply #725 on: April 15, 2009, 10:18:09 am »

I went on my first date a couple of months ago. I wore the completly wrong outfit, made as ass of myself and scared him away. I had a sort of date with a different guy, who was very good at lying and deception. Told me everything I wanted to hear, I spent a lot of money on him, gave him what he wanted, then it turned out I was one of about a dozen girls he was stringing along and doing the same to.

So the two dates I have ever been on in my life, both in the last two months, have been horrific disasters.
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« Reply #726 on: April 15, 2009, 11:48:39 am »

back to being single, has anyone been on any truly magical dates lately? where did you go? what did you do? what did you get away with doing?


well not realy a date, but I just had a very fine game of scrabble with my ex & another amiga in the pub which was pretty pleasant! (Although I came second, as someone managed to use all 7 letter in her last go & raced from being 2 points ahead of me to 67 points ahead!)


and this was magical because...

... He was playing scrabble with rune peices Wink


At times it came surprisingly close to that.... but not quite- t was just a realy lovely evening out- the pub is in an old tramshed, with gorgeous tiled bricks, and the most amazing decor and good company! Also Re."our friend" while I love her to bits, I don't think anything would realy happen & to be honest I don't think I'd realy want it to either, we're too close for that....Also to be honest we've all kissed each other a fair few times in the past, so it wouldn't realy be of any note Wink
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« Reply #727 on: April 16, 2009, 12:40:34 am »

you just want to rub it in.

just let us wallow in peace! ;_;
aww -I'm sorry I didn't mean it like that *feels guilty* Sad
Its more that people here are very eloquent, and when the thread wanders offtopic (as it generaly does) people write with great wit virtuosity & relate most amusing anecdotes!

Anyway it's not all certain for me, as we were going out for a while just over a year ago & it kindof all picked up again recently, so are seeing how it goes from here....
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« Reply #728 on: April 16, 2009, 01:21:58 am »

As a single who has already deeply loved a woman, I think what saddens me the most is the absence of love...
having someone to love is a beautiful thing, even just as a friend.
having a picture of my loved one hidden in my pocket watch, that could remind me of her beautiful self as I look at it during the ever too long times my heart is far from hers...
a sepia picture, with a beautiful woman, smiling at me, who would have the gift to lighten up my feelings and burn away all grief or sorrow with just one glance.
I would give anything for such a picture.
If any woman among you would thinks she could relieve my heart of its sadness, please, I would love to see your beautiful face, even if it must only be a photograph.
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« Reply #729 on: April 19, 2009, 11:21:30 pm »

I'd like to take this moment to tell you folks that I invented a cannon, that fires cannons. Grin

Seems useless... unless the cannon-ammo also fires...

Please allow me to explain with this comic I drew a few years ago Smiley

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Discalimer; I reserve all rights to the Canonn Cannon, and also understand that it probably wouldn't work in reality and defies certain laws like physics.

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« Reply #730 on: April 20, 2009, 02:12:04 pm »

I did meet this beautiful little late-20s seampunk this weekend at the jo-ann fabric. She works behind the counter. Picking people up at work is a delicate operation, and I will proceed with caution.

Upon seeing my ... Presence, she became a bit shy and would avoid eye contact. But very cute, and seampunk on top of that (short hair, self-cut pauper style with yarn through it.. very attention-grabbing)

I was there with my 20 year old female roommate this weekend, so it was difficult to make moves.
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« Reply #731 on: April 23, 2009, 01:16:20 pm »

They're lying, I'm afraid. They just use an awful excuse. However, I'd love to see if they balked when you did indeed show me to them.

Me: My good friend here tells me you're a Sapphist?
Her: No, no, I'm straight!
Me: Well then my good friend here is indeed male. You seem to be in check, my lass.

catch them in a pincer movement what what? Cheesy

heh, i know they're lying.. and they know i know they're lying.. i suppose on one hand it's a slightly easier reaction to deal with than if they shriek and run for the door

it's either that or i've developed a super-power and not realised.. fear me for I am The Lesbonator! (TM, pat. pending).. there may be a marvel comic deal in this, does anyone know stan lee's number? Cheesy


I'm rather ruefull of my single status at the moment primarily because i find myself without an escort to a play i was very much looking forward to and can there fore not go >.<

i'm confused as to why you feel you cannot attend a play on your own.. unless "play" in this case is a colloquialism for "swinger party" in which case attending solo would be against the spirit?
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« Reply #732 on: April 23, 2009, 05:40:46 pm »

Relationships and seeking seems to be a weakness of sorts, when viewed from the point that the person craving one is desperate, alone and pathetic.

But there is more to life than that. People coming together isn't a matter of pathetic failure. It's not a chase, and it's not a catch. The hounds aren't beighing, and the fox isn't hiding.

When you realise that you want another not to cure the emptiness, but instead to share with them the overflowing good that you have. Not to alleviate a frown, but to share a smile - "falling in love" doesn't feel like "Falling off a cliff", but rather "falling into a bowl of pudding".

Well, Pudding or not - the point is there. Love isn't like stepping in dog-doody when you realise that what's going on is the divine gift we all have to look at someone, not as a target - but as a teammate.  To desire not to eat, but to feed.

It's not a predator thing, and those being pursued aren't prey.
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« Reply #733 on: April 27, 2009, 01:02:37 am »

Yeah, it breaks my heart every single day. It was true love at first sight when we met, and after a few days of flirtation, my friend told me they were together. I don't think she knows how much he and I really, really like each other, and I would never tell her, or ever act on anything. He once told me he thinks in a paralell universe, we are married by now. And that breaks my heart into a thousand tiny cogs Sad

I know how you feel. When I fell in love with my ex he made sure I feel loved as well, but was never honest about our type of relationship. I was heartbroken when he told me we're just "seeing" and that he thinks of me as a "friend with benefits" and when he decided to end it he said it was "for my own good" because "I can't give you what you want". Took me 11 months before I managed to open my heart to others and even consider dating again.

And need I mention that after we broke up because he "wasn't ready for a relationship" (even though we were in one for 8 months), he moved in with a girl he's been seeing for two months.
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« Reply #734 on: April 27, 2009, 01:48:51 am »

It was true love at first sight when we met, and after a few days of flirtation, my friend told me they were together.

...Huh... sounds familiar...

I'd say your best bet is to forget him. He's dangerous ground. There are others. Don't risk your friendship with his girlfriend.

Or, you could be a fool and go after him, ruin their relationship and probably end up with nothing gained.

...

My, aren't I cynical tonight?

Truthful, though.

Now, come cuddle with me.
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« Reply #735 on: April 27, 2009, 11:22:07 am »

I've been single my entire life. Never been on a date and I'll be 27 this year . My friends are all either married, engaged or taken. Some even have children, most have a mortgage!  Cheesy  But they've never tried to set me up. And they wouldn't bother now, as I am such a twitchy nervous thing who doesn't like to be touched. There'd be no point!!  Cheesy  

Would you like to go on a date with me ?

 Cheesy Well well finally someone has asked! Sadly It isn't possible but it nice to have been asked  Cheesy
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« Reply #736 on: April 27, 2009, 06:31:54 pm »

Urgh, I could vomit right now. I hate myself.
Whats the trouble- I can't promise we'll be of help, but we'll give it a d*mn good try!

true that!
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darkshines
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« Reply #737 on: April 27, 2009, 06:33:36 pm »

Everything is so screwed, relationship-wise. Its like all the good people are taken, or live miles away, or are married, or gay, or as I found out this week, the wrong age. I just want a nice person, who lives near me or who is willing travel, who is also single, likes women and is within 3 years either side of my age. Thats all. I mean, is that so much to ask? Seemingly so.
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« Reply #738 on: April 27, 2009, 06:43:20 pm »

Everything is so screwed, relationship-wise. Its like all the good people are taken, or live miles away, or are married, or gay, or as I found out this week, the wrong age. I just want a nice person, who lives near me or who is willing travel, who is also single, likes women and is within 3 years either side of my age. Thats all. I mean, is that so much to ask? Seemingly so.

I hear you. I live in Israel and even if someone live in Tel Aviv it's around an hour by car to get to Haifa or vise versa, and because I can't find someone matching my standarts and likings here, I seek in Tel Aviv as well. When I do find someone there, and think this might work, they reveal their jerkiness by saying that "Haifa is too much of a big deal to travel to" when today we have public transportation that arrives there in 45 min'. and they ask me to always come to Tel Aviv as if it's the only city in Israel that's worth coming for. I mean, excuse me? You want us to go on a first date, then do something as polite as coming to my city for it. Tel Aviv at night is not the most sympathic place, especially if she's heading back to Haifa that very same night. I mean, does the guy actually think I'm going to sleep at his place after we just got to know each other (and being the man he is, try and get me laid, too?)...

It makes thing so much harder in the dating field. I thought I found a great guy right until they said they don't plan to go thourgh all the "hussle" of traveling to Haifa for a first date. And what kind of woman will I be if I do that? I mean, please! Angry

Oh, and about the age issue, I hardly date guys my age because they are so immature and normally still live with their parents and think their muchilaros in Chille adventuring the world  Undecided Losers.
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« Reply #739 on: April 27, 2009, 06:52:25 pm »

Age is a funny thing. The brackets seem to widen as you get older. When I was 13 I'd never have looked at going out with anyone more than a year older. At 16 I'd consider two or three years, at 21 I'd consider anyone between the ages of about 18 and 27 and now, at 24, I would consider 19 (at a push)-35. Maybe I'm just getting more desperate! Smiley
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« Reply #740 on: April 27, 2009, 06:54:07 pm »

Everything is so screwed, relationship-wise. Its like all the good people are taken, or live miles away, or are married, or gay, or as I found out this week, the wrong age. I just want a nice person, who lives near me or who is willing travel, who is also single, likes women and is within 3 years either side of my age. Thats all. I mean, is that so much to ask? Seemingly so.

I am coming to the conclusion that the age thing is somewhat negotiable.

I've always tended to think much the same way. That said, I'm in a pickle sometimes - I look much older than I am, and this can put some people off. That said, I've always used this to my advantage - useful, since I prefer lasses a few years older.
I can't usually bear anyone my age, sorry, anyone at all. I'm rather particular about the company I keep, since unless a person can provide good, intellectual conversation, and at least take some interest in the world around them, rather than float in a bubble of damning ignorance, I find myself at a loss to think of ways to talk to them.
I think it's a problem we all face - our interests usually reside far out of the sphere of 'normal' likes and dislikes.

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« Reply #741 on: April 27, 2009, 06:57:35 pm »

Age was never an issue for me. When I was younger I dated guys around a year older than me because my parents only allowed that. But as I got older I changed my prefferences to older guys. At 17 (and later at that relationship) I dated a 39 year old man (he was so good looking Shocked) and it was also a long distance relationship (Israel-Switzerland)... Nowdays I'll date guys from 23 (although I won't find one that is as mature as I) up to 34.
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« Reply #742 on: April 27, 2009, 06:58:26 pm »

Age is a funny thing. The brackets seem to widen as you get older. When I was 13 I'd never have looked at going out with anyone more than a year older. At 16 I'd consider two or three years, at 21 I'd consider anyone between the ages of about 18 and 27 and now, at 24, I would consider 19 (at a push)-35. Maybe I'm just getting more desperate! Smiley

That's along the lines I was thinking of. I think its partly the realisation that beyond a certain age you've got as mature as you're likely to get. There's a big difference in maturity between a 15 and and 18 year old, but less so between a 21 and 24 year-old.

I think its one of those things that works as a general rule, until you meet the exception. But is it worth the hassle?
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« Reply #743 on: April 27, 2009, 07:01:08 pm »

Age was never an issue for me. When I was younger I dated guys around a year older than me because my parents only allowed that. But as I got older I changed my prefferences to older guys. At 17 (and later at that relationship) I dated a 39 year old man (he was so good looking Shocked) and it was also a long distance relationship (Israel-Switzerland)... Nowdays I'll date guys from 23 (although I won't find one that is as mature as I) up to 34.

Well I've always found myself going for older lasses for that exact same reason. Very few people are mature bitter and cynical as I am, at least not around here. I used to have year either way of my age rule, but I abandoned that after realising how few people I would really click with - imposing silly rules like that on oneself serves only to retard one's efforts to find someone.
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« Reply #744 on: April 27, 2009, 07:01:22 pm »

If you get on with a person, age shouldn't be a factor (with the exception of being completely underage and illegal).

I'm almost 25. I've dated a few men my age, and more than a few who are older. I've never dated anyone younger than I am, but that isn't becasue i'm setting limits. If I met someone who was mature enough to hold my attraction but was just past legal, I'd give them a shot.

Adding stipulations and boundaries simply complicates matters. Do what makes you happy. Make your choices based on the person in question, not by what year they happened to be born. I, for one, know some 18 year olds who are leaps and bounds more mature than some of the men i know in their 40's.
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« Reply #745 on: April 27, 2009, 07:28:24 pm »

Youth doesn't appeal to me. I'd rather be with someone who has a similar level of education/work as me, someone who has weathered through it. A wealth of experience at a young age isn't the same. I am a very different person now to the one I was when I was 16, thank Darwin, and I am glad of it. I just think of teens as still kinda being like kids. I'm basing this purely on what I was like as a teen.

And I'm not saying you're wrong. Most people, as children, are children. In a broad sense, that works.

But judging any individual based upon "what I was" will most often lead to erronious judgements.

I'm not talking spefics here, as I've never come across a teen I'd date. I'm advocating against closing off your brain to ANY possibilities.

Very apt.
It's a terrible idea to hold yourself back when a genuine opportunity for happiness could be just beyond the boundaries that you're imposed upon yourself ('you' being a faceless imaginary for argument's sake). In my experience love and happiness will always come from the place you least expect it - you should judge any and everyone based on their own pros and cons - not on a preconception.

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« Reply #746 on: April 27, 2009, 07:30:58 pm »

I'd rather be with someone who has a similar level of education/work as me,

Unfortunately not everyone is quite as fortunate as you in that respect.

Absolutely. University isn't for everyone, and a lot of people who do go don't necessarily get much out of it.
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« Reply #747 on: April 27, 2009, 07:31:32 pm »

If you get on with a person, age shouldn't be a factor (with the exception of being completely underage and illegal).

I'm almost 25. I've dated a few men my age, and more than a few who are older. I've never dated anyone younger than I am, but that isn't becasue i'm setting limits. If I met someone who was mature enough to hold my attraction but was just past legal, I'd give them a shot.

Adding stipulations and boundaries simply complicates matters. Do what makes you happy. Make your choices based on the person in question, not by what year they happened to be born. I, for one, know some 18 year olds who are leaps and bounds more mature than some of the men i know in their 40's.

I'm pretty much in agreement, although I think there's a balence between being mature and slightly childish, as for me both are needed- I very much doubt that I should enjoy being with anyone who isn't happy to be completely childish sometimes (and likewise able to deal with me being likewise on occasion) Personally in my limited experience generally I have gone for people nearish to my age, although definitely more older than me than younger.

Well you're hardly going to get that in Britain. If you can find me ANYONE under sixteen (considering that's the age of consent) that is mature and intelligent enough to hold the sights of any of us over eighteen, I'd be impressed.
I will attest to having met more than one person under 16 who has been definitly more mature than a great no. of people over 21, nonetheless I still agree that they are a rareity
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« Reply #748 on: April 27, 2009, 07:36:12 pm »

I think there's a balence between being mature and slightly childish, as for me both are needed- I very much doubt that I should enjoy being with anyone who isn't happy to be completely childish sometimes (and likewise able to deal with me being likewise on occasion) Personally in my limited experience generally I have gone for people nearish to my age, although definitely more older than me than younger.

There definitely needs to be an element of playfulness and silliness, otherwise it's be dull, but I can do without childish tantrums or totally naive outlooks.


Well you're hardly going to get that in Britain. If you can find me ANYONE under sixteen (considering that's the age of consent) that is mature and intelligent enough to hold the sights of any of us over eighteen, I'd be impressed.
I will attest to having met more than one person under 16 who has been definitly more mature than a great no. of people over 21, nonetheless I still agree that they are a rareity

I could introduce you to a few very mature 15-year-olds... but far more immature ones. As you'd expect really.
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« Reply #749 on: April 27, 2009, 07:39:31 pm »

If you get on with a person, age shouldn't be a factor (with the exception of being completely underage and illegal).

I'm almost 25. I've dated a few men my age, and more than a few who are older. I've never dated anyone younger than I am, but that isn't becasue i'm setting limits. If I met someone who was mature enough to hold my attraction but was just past legal, I'd give them a shot.

Adding stipulations and boundaries simply complicates matters. Do what makes you happy. Make your choices based on the person in question, not by what year they happened to be born. I, for one, know some 18 year olds who are leaps and bounds more mature than some of the men i know in their 40's.

I'm pretty much in agreement, although I think there's a balence between being mature and slightly childish, as for me both are needed- I very much doubt that I should enjoy being with anyone who isn't happy to be completely childish sometimes (and likewise able to deal with me being likewise on occasion) Personally in my limited experience generally I have gone for people nearish to my age, although definitely more older than me than younger.

Oh, very much agreed here. Being mature doesn't mean being 100% stoic and responsible.

A person who isn't ready to laugh at a moments notice and isn't ready to induldge their inner child from time to time, however, isn't very likely to be all that mature either. Just acting like "an adult" doesn't cut it. Maturity does not equal old, maturity is a combination of many things, most important of those being healthy and happy emotionally, and having enough empathy (however this may have been garnered) to understand what is going on around oneself.
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