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« Reply #625 on: March 20, 2009, 04:54:17 am »

after my last relationship which lasted a miserable 2 years,

If it was  Wink miserable, why did it last two years?
well id say it lasted so long because i was afraid to break up with her. i didnt want to be with her and i didnt want to be single. also, i was pretty scared of what she might do if i did break up with her. of course waiting so long led to me being really nasty to her when it was over. im not too proud of it but it is what it is.
Man, I'm messed up.
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« Reply #626 on: March 20, 2009, 05:06:44 am »

Pardon my french, but I believe that the fine folks at www.relationshit.com have written something you may need to read.

I too suffered through a "miserable" relationship - For a lot longer than 2 years.  I did not, nor do I now, consider any of that time "wasted".  More often than not, we dedicate ourselves to the efforts of fixing what we see broken (To me, this is the heart of S'punkers)  .  It would seem that to do otherwise would be "abandonment".  Unfortunately, we only see that our efforts are actually destructive if taken out of balance.  And worse, we often see this only when another human comes around and tempts us into leaving (Which to many, is called "Cheating").

It's not fair, no it is not. It is; however, reality.   Mine left me for another guy.  He's not better than me, he isn't full of promise and all the answers to her questions. He was only different. And the writings at that site may help you to see the truth in the fog of doubt.

I'm not sure if this is "back on topic", after all of these pages - but I am single.  Being single is just as much of a confusion as not being single.  "The more independent I become, The happier I am.  I wish someone were with me so I could share it."

Two philosophies occur to me:  "Stop, maybe the answer is looking for you" and "I am alone, I am alive. i never chose either of those"
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« Reply #627 on: March 20, 2009, 07:53:16 am »

Is it wierd that I'm a guy, and I dream of having kids one day?

Not at all. One of the few compensantions of the 21st Century is that men are *allowed*, not only to have emotions and parental desires but to express them, too. Every day walking down the street, you see fathers (or father-figures) walking with, playing with, laughing with, carrying and hugging their little ones in a way that would've been unthinkable not that long ago because "that's not what men did." Thank heavens we've moved on from that!

We have the potential to be raising the healthiest (physically and emotionally) generations of the human race, so how we as a global society have manged to f*@k it up so badly is somethign I can't comprehend.
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« Reply #628 on: March 20, 2009, 03:08:05 pm »

Relationships are about enjoying yourself. They're about having fun .
When a relationship becomes anything less than enjoyable then break it off, since in the long run things like that really are not important.
I'm not saying to end it with someone at the first hurdle, but people really need to... well, to chill out about it.
You get these types to whom being in a relationship is all-important, the begin-all and end-all, and this only causes problems. If you're not enjoying yourself with someone then just don't be with them.

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« Reply #629 on: March 21, 2009, 04:06:36 am »

When you walk into a casino's slot machine room, do you -expect- to win ?  Do you think there is something wrong with you when you walk out empty handed ?

If you interview for a job, and it's a job you can do - but you don't get it, do you think of yourself as a failure ?  Do you feel that showing up is enough to get a job ?

These questions should be carefully examined - because the answer for this sort of dating disappointment lies within it.

Slots, Jobs, Love.  All have something profound in common:  It's all a chance !

As a man, I see these douchebag @$$hole men walking around with beautiful and interesting girls in their arms, these women swoon over them.  It's been pointed out to me that "Behaving like a prick (ignoring them, playing cool, blah blah) is what works".  I have a problem with this philosophy.

I'm not a douchebag.   And herein lies the problem.  None of this advice seems to make sense.  Well last year I figured out why it doesn't make sense.   Statistics !   Look around you. 90% of people are idiots. Douchebags. Numb-minded sheople.  So of course, when you see any woman (Or man, I guess) you'll see them with some dirtbag.  For the women, they'll see interesting men being dominated by complete bitches - because statistically that's what is dominant !

Back to the slot machine thing . I'll continue with that metaphor.   We look at the "Kind of women that interest us" (I'm going to say "women" but I mean just the person of your interests) as a room of slot machines.  The room is full of different slot machines, some are vegas themed, some are star trek themed, some are 90210 themed, and so forth.  We walk around when we're younger, just trying each one. We walk to the Catholic Girl themed slot machine, put in a quarter, and pull the lever.  It gives us lemons. So we think "Catholic girl slot machines suck. They don't give us any payout".  We continue this, until one fine day (And remember.. by CHANCE) we pull the handle on a goth girl (Yeah... this is me) and we get 3 cherries !  The next time we are in this room of slot machines, we (In this specific case, "me") head straight to the Goth slot machine.  My reasoning ?  "It worked before!"

And here we are.  We each go back to what has paid off in the past !  We avoid, completely, machines that have given us lemons.  And each time we walk into that casino, we pass up machines that are perfectly capable of giving us the payout that we desire.

It's foolish, at the very least.

From the flipside of the coin, I have seen the difference in my own experience.  As a ...  Well, S'punkers are a different sorta cat altogether, but when I leave my house I am in full regalia. I would expect it to attract more of the same kind of woman I find attractive - And alas ! I'm WRONG !  How is this possible ?

As a regular, upstanding kinda guy, I got as much Goth attention as I do when I'm steamed !  And what's worse, I'm starting to think I get _less_ lately .   I've found that neovictorian style, painted fingernails, eyeliner and trainwhistles / sculptures / copper broaches actually SCARE people away !

Does Steampunk still fit in the metaphor ? You bet.  Because people are attracted to Interesting people. They stay with Dependable people. People are NOT attracted to Dependable people, and they will NOT stay with Interesting people. 


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« Reply #630 on: March 21, 2009, 05:11:29 am »

When a woman falls for a man, they tend to (Can easily do) fall in love with someone that requires change. They will fall for a down-and-out, unemployed and drug addicted hair farmer because they feel the need to create the man of their dreams.  This is why I when I go to the observatory once a month, I never meet anyone. But my heroin addicted friend gets laid all the time at the local bars.

Men wish for women to stay the exact same. They don't want them to change. The hair should be long and they should always be at the same state they were when they met (We met at a party, and you don't like to party anymore so I am now dating Jennifer, because she likes to party. You changed!)

Women like to modify. Men like to preserve.  Think about it.
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« Reply #631 on: March 21, 2009, 11:17:12 am »

When a woman falls for a man, they tend to (Can easily do) fall in love with someone that requires change. They will fall for a down-and-out, unemployed and drug addicted hair farmer because they feel the need to create the man of their dreams.  This is why I when I go to the observatory once a month, I never meet anyone. But my heroin addicted friend gets laid all the time at the local bars.

Men wish for women to stay the exact same. They don't want them to change. The hair should be long and they should always be at the same state they were when they met (We met at a party, and you don't like to party anymore so I am now dating Jennifer, because she likes to party. You changed!)

Women like to modify. Men like to preserve.  Think about it.

I can see your point.
However I must say I cannot stand people staying the same. I crave the new, the interesting, the untrodden ground.
To have someone be the same as they were when I met them would be awfully boring.
Unfortunately, even though I've known many girls who say they're after brains, not brawn in a guy, they still will always go for the less reliable guy with the bigger muscles. I'm making no broad generalisations here, but my views of the opposite sex every other human being on earth are rather jaded.
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« Reply #632 on: March 21, 2009, 11:46:47 am »

Women are illogical... FACT*

My Ex was a psychologist and viewed psychology as a science and expected me to respect it as one, however she did not believe Newtons 3rd law of Motion and would not believe it no matter how many times i explained it to her or showed it to her..... ILLOGICAL!

Crazy ass nut job!



*this comment is infact an opinion of Hatchleader incorperated. Such a coment might not be fact or viewed as fact and as a result all right are reserved as the opinion of the author... Values may go up as well as down
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« Reply #633 on: March 21, 2009, 12:09:16 pm »

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Patapsychology begins from Murphy's Law, as Finnegan called the First Axiom, adopted from Sean Murphy. This says,and I quote,"The normal does not exist. The average does not exist. We know only a very large but probably finite phalanx of discrete space-time events encountered and endured." In less technical language, the Board of the College of Patapsychology offers one million Irish punds [around $700,000 American] to any "normalist" who can exhibit "a normal sunset, an average Beethoven sonata, an ordinary Playmate of the Month, or any thing or event in space-time that qualifies as normal, average or ordinary."

In a world where no two fingerprints appear identical, and no two brains appear identical, and an electron does not even seem identical to itself from one nanosecond to another, patapsychology seems on safe ground here.

No normalist has yet produced even a totally normal dog, an average cat, or even an ordinary chickadee. Attempts to find an average Bird of Paradise, an ordinary haiku or even a normal cardiologist have floundered pathetically. The normal, the average, the ordinary, even the typical, exist only in statistics, i.e. the human mathematical mindscape. They never appear in external space-time, which consists only and always of nonnormal events in nonnormal series.



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« Reply #634 on: March 21, 2009, 12:28:16 pm »

I'm not a douchebag.   And herein lies the problem. 
That pretty much sums up my position Roll Eyes
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« Reply #635 on: March 21, 2009, 01:06:21 pm »

I wouldn´t use the d-word, but it is quite right. Pretty much the only times I´ve been succesful with women is when I´ve been acting like an asshole. I shall endeavour to do that again.

That slot machine analogy was horrible.
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« Reply #636 on: March 21, 2009, 01:17:20 pm »

I wouldn´t use the d-word, but it is quite right. Pretty much the only times I´ve been succesful with women is when I´ve been acting like an asshole. I shall endeavour to do that again.
I'm going to try and become more of an evil mad scientist, I will have to be creatively scientifically evil, it's a way I can be more of an asshole while perpetuating the mad scienceyness and, you know, still be myself Smiley
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« Reply #637 on: March 21, 2009, 04:50:20 pm »

I don't really get what you guys are talking about.. You almost make it seem like women are from some other planet or something. I have never had any problem whatsoever talking to women.. in fact, my problem is much the opposite - I can not stand other guys. Put me and some other guy together and there are only 2 possible outcomes: 1.) We end up completely ignoring each other, or 2.) We end up in some ridiculous fight over nothing, which in turn then leads me to ignore the other before matters escalate..

The last male friend I had was when I was 14 or so.. after that, I've always been around girls. Back in high school, the guys assumed I had some kind of 'mythical gift' or something that allowed me to converse with women, and random guys would approach me all the time for tips on how to talk with girls.. In college then, most people sort of assumed I was gay. (to be fair though - 90% of the students were female, and over half of the guys actually were gay) Truth is, I am not some insane womanizer, but I am not gay either. I just really like women. The girls always used to say they should slap a pair of tits on me, and I'd really be 'one of the girls' Tongue

I'm not really sure what it is. I don't think I'm all that effeminate myself. Just like so many other guys, I'm into computers, cars, violent movies, technical stuff and gizmos and whatnot. I would very much prefer banging my own head against the wall repeatedly over going shopping.. I positively abhor that 'metrosexual' nonsense, and if I could get away with it at work, my face would perpetually be covered in stubble.. Yet at the same time, I rate 'Lost in Translation' as my favorite movie ever, and I totally dig the Bridget Jones character.. I like hanging out with the girls and talk about inane stuff, and try to steer 'm away from the jerks - I get very protective of my girls sometimes. Wink

*shrug*

I don't know...I think I'd make for an awesome lesbian though.
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« Reply #638 on: March 21, 2009, 06:13:13 pm »

The girls always used to say they should slap a pair of tits on me, and I'd really be 'one of the girls' Tongue

You can borrow mine if you want, I don't like them.  Cheesy
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« Reply #639 on: March 21, 2009, 06:55:17 pm »

I'm not really sure what it is. I don't think I'm all that effeminate myself. Just like so many other guys, I'm into computers, cars, violent movies, technical stuff and gizmos and whatnot. I would very much prefer banging my own head against the wall repeatedly over going shopping.. I positively abhor that 'metrosexual' nonsense, and if I could get away with it at work, my face would perpetually be covered in stubble.. Yet at the same time, I rate 'Lost in Translation' as my favorite movie ever, and I totally dig the Bridget Jones character.. I like hanging out with the girls and talk about inane stuff, and try to steer 'm away from the jerks - I get very protective of my girls sometimes. Wink

Wow, it's weird finding out someone had the same issues as me.

I'm definitely into guy things - computers, violent movies, all the stuff you mention - but I've never gotten along too well with the guys I work with. My interests just vary too much. I'm not into football or baseball or fishing or binge drinking any of that stuff that they seem to be into. All of the guys I'm friends with are into "non-standard" stuff as well, like filmmaking and other artsy/creative endeavours.

As far as women, in college I had a lot of female friends, most of them very attractive. Everywhere I went, I befriended beautiful women. My male friends were always jealous of me, and wondered how I did it. I suppose it's because I actually talked to women as if they were people, not just objects to sleep with. I found that when you're not trying too hard is when it's easiest to talk with women.

I eventually graduated college and got married. Marriage and unattached beautiful women don't really mix, so many of the hot female friends faded away. Ironically, as soon as they found I was engaged, many of them revealed to me they were actually quite interested in me. Oh well.

Then, last year, I went off for training for three months for my job and met a bunch of new people from around the country. Who'd I become good friends with? The two hottest girls in the class, of course. Not because of any nefarious intentions on my part, it's just that we got along really well and had similar interests. I was actually very protective of them when we went out, like a big brother. However, my wife didn't quite see it that way.

Note to the gents: when you're a thousand miles away from your beloved spouse, there are times when it's okay to lie. For instance, when your beloved spouse calls you and asks, "Where are you right now?" the answer you give should not be "Going out to the mall with Kelly, watching a movie, and grabbing some dinner afterwards," this "Kelly" being a slender, blonde, very pretty California girl who likes guns and airplanes and whose picture you've posted on your blog.

You've basically just told your beloved spouse - who's sitting at home alone - that her husband is out on what is essentially a date with another woman. My friend Kelly overheard the ensuing heated conversation and chimed in, "Well, hell, I'd be pissed too!"

Yeah. Not one of my most intelligent moments. Honesty = Fail.

I don't know...I think I'd make for an awesome lesbian though.

One of my friends used to say, "I'm a lesbian born in a man's body. I just love women too much."
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« Reply #640 on: March 21, 2009, 08:25:16 pm »

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Wow, it's weird finding out someone had the same issues as me.
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hmm I can identify with both of you and often find myself in a similar situation, although usualy the groups of friends have been a little bit more mixed. As for the "lesbian born in a man's body" to be honest it feels a bit like that sometimes -this is also backed up the majority of girls I find attractive being also turn out to be interested in gurls not guys....One day I'll get lucky ;}
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« Reply #641 on: March 21, 2009, 10:26:51 pm »

Well firstly the metaphor was rather clunky in explanation. Secondly you compared a game of chance with job interviews and relationships. I´m pretty sure there´s more than pure chance to those. Then you talked about how it was stupid to go to the same machines, for example avoid the 90210 themed one and go for the goth themed one. Well, if you want to meet a girl with a bit of intelligence it would be wiser to go for the second one.

Understanding might be good. However I understand why men dump their wifes and go for someone younger. That doesn´t really make it any better that they do. Knowing why women choose assholes over nice guys doesn´t necessarily help much with it either. Being a nice guy I can spend time with women and be their friend, no problem. It´s the getting to be more than that which is the problem.
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« Reply #642 on: March 21, 2009, 10:53:12 pm »

Being a nice guy I can spend time with women and be their friend, no problem. It´s the getting to be more than that which is the problem.

Approaching women is pretty much an either/or situation. Either you're just going to be friends, or you're after a relationship. In my experience, it works best for all parties involved if your intentions are clear from the beginning. If you're interested in a relationship with a girl, but you end up in the 'friends zone', it can be disappointing for you. I also found it a bad idea to date friends. I have dated girls from the 'friends pool' before - but it creates unnecessary tensions, awkward situations and if things happen to go awry, you run the risk of losing a dear friend. For that reason, becoming friends first, and hope for a deeper relationship later on is something I'd really advice against. Of course there are exceptions to that, as every relationship is unique - but it's a good rule of thumb.

Now if you turn it around, and you make it clear to the girl that you'd be interested in a relationship of sorts first, then at least both of you know what's what. Then if things don't work out, you just might end up being friends anyway, so you don't really lose anything in the process.

A few years ago I had a date with a beautiful girl. She was great - she had a brilliant sense of humor, we had a lot in common, etc. yet somehow we just didn't click the way it should, and I could sense that she felt the same way - so halfway through the date, but before things got awkward, I told her that I didn't think it was going to work between us, but also that I thought she was brilliant to hang out with. Instantly all the tension and pressure was gone, neither of us had to keep up appearances and we ended up having a great day and night - as friends. These things happen. Being a typical nice guy has its advantages, I have always been able to give a positive twist to dates, even if the results weren't what I initially hoped for.
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« Reply #643 on: March 22, 2009, 10:54:21 pm »

Well firstly the metaphor was rather clunky in explanation. Secondly you compared a game of chance with job interviews and relationships. I´m pretty sure there´s more than pure chance to those. Then you talked about how it was stupid to go to the same machines, for example avoid the 90210 themed one and go for the goth themed one. Well, if you want to meet a girl with a bit of intelligence it would be wiser to go for the second one.

Understanding might be good. However I understand why men dump their wifes and go for someone younger. That doesn´t really make it any better that they do. Knowing why women choose assholes over nice guys doesn´t necessarily help much with it either. Being a nice guy I can spend time with women and be their friend, no problem. It´s the getting to be more than that which is the problem.


I have given this much thought, and I believe the Slot Machine theory still holds.  In terms of interviews, there is a bit of effort to put into them.  I show up in goggles and leathers stinking of dust and spices - and even if my interviewer is a Spunker themselves - I can guarantee I won't get the job.  To that end:  Likened as putting only a penny in the quarter slot machine.  You only get out what you put in.   The gaining of a romantic partner isn't as intricate:  I still believe that any amount of currency gets a pull at the handle.  Whether in a 3 piece suit or a stinking t-shirt and messy appearances; I believe that it is still a chance of pure luck. You either kick off someone's responses or you don't. 

And a prime example of the 90210 v Goth metaphor:  I have found the exact _opposite_ that you report.  I have dated 4 goth girls in my life, and all have proven to be completely puffed.  The 90210 girls I have dated have always turned out to be uproarious drunks.   It is not fair of me to say that all 90210 girls are drunks, nor (As you can see) that all Goth girls are vapid and dense.

In a room full of different flavors and varieties of 90210 machines, the sole (Often VERY rare) Goth slot machine is tempting to me. I prefer the asthetic, I believe Romantic Goth girls are stunning, and I prefer to waste a little more time at that rarer machine.

Lastly, I would like to tell you that my theory makes your predicament of "Always a bridesmaid, never a bride" alittle easier of a pill to swallow.  I can offer for you two pieces of advice that remove you from the "Friend" ladder:

1. Make your intentions clear, communicate, give her the bedroom eyes , blah blah ad nauseum
2. Walk away from them the moment this happens.

While quite tongue-in-cheek, both bits of advice are just as valid.   Each carries with it a result that you must be prepared to accept. you have chosen 1: And now feel the effects of it. You look at choice 2 and must accept the fact that your pool of friends will be reduced.  Vis a Vis, I have not ignored that there are other options.

Those options are all the same as the first two in the important respect that they each have a result that you must accept and be prepared for.

As a clear demonstration of the duplicity of the first idea: I present to you an XKCD comic:
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« Reply #644 on: March 23, 2009, 09:40:10 pm »

girls who only go for assholes or think girls ONLY go for the asshole type of guy, then you're interested in the wrong girls.
Nope. It's a universal truth.
Back in school I once fancied this fantastic girl from sweeden, she was really cute, really tall too (so just the right height for me Grin) into similar stuff as me, a weirdo like me Wink haha, we'd have been great together I know we would have! But she ended up going out with the biggest asshole in the entire class. He was the biggest asshole in most classes. I'm not exaggerating.

However as with all things there are the exceptions to the rule like Miss Storm, above Roll Eyes
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« Reply #645 on: March 23, 2009, 09:51:45 pm »

Nope. It's a universal truth.

No it's not.

here, pay attention:



ANY LADIES HERE WHO FAVOR THE ASSHOLE TYPE?



Now let's sit back and wait for the reactions, shall we? Grin
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« Reply #646 on: March 23, 2009, 09:57:20 pm »

When you ask them they don't come right out and say it, said girl I talked about allways said she was "looking for a nice guy, an unusual guy" but she never ended up with one.
They never admit to liking them they allways say that line about a nice, sensitive guy but then they allways end up with a jerk.
However, I think most of the girls here being steampunk and therefore not the norm will favour the nicer more unusual guys and keep those roughians and vagabonds at the end of a ten foot pole they don't touch anythying with.
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« Reply #647 on: March 23, 2009, 10:14:39 pm »

Then I must be in the latter 10%, seeing as how I'd have to date a geek, of either computery or scientific persuasion. Literacy nerds not that valued. As rather unfortunately, most of male geeks here are assholes, even if it's not their intent.

But I have to agree to having seen nice, intelligent girls mostly ending up with assholes. So, my main question is, are there just that many jerks compared to nice people, that it's statistically defendable?
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« Reply #648 on: March 23, 2009, 10:28:54 pm »

Might I interject for a second and point out that people who are arseholes generally* aren't as bad towards the people they are interested in- or at least they act in a different way.
I'd say also that said arseholes also probably are more forward and have more experience at getting girls (or guys) by virtue of being arseholes and as such having more occasion to change their amour.

*note I say generally- there are thousands of examples to the contrary, however when it comes to 'chatting up' I maintain this is true.

In short:
Being an arsehole doesn't make you more attractive, it just gives you practice!
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« Reply #649 on: March 23, 2009, 11:48:31 pm »

Preference comes into conversation,

Chance comes into play.

Anyone out there would gladly _say_ they are into intelligent, hard-working good people who are loyal and won't betray them.  Then they finish their glass of Beringers and run out the door to their douchebag boyfriend when he honks his horn and yells at them to "get their fat ass out there".

What people say and what people do have always been different. This applies to about 99% of the world.

So when I tell you it's no surprise that women date idiot cross-threaded dirtbags, I say that not because they prefer them - but because of raw statistics. 99% of the world are idiot cross-threaded dirtbags.   Don't get bent out of shape about it.

Also, and this wraps up my XKCD point:  Don't be so quick to judge. Most of what people do to each other is, in one facet or another, really really mean. Our intentions may be good, but what we do on the other is flat out mean.

I can walk this philosophy to the door too:  You can reason out (along this path) so much that is bad about human interaction that you will decide one of two choices are necessary: Live in a tree and never talk to another human being, or eat a .38.  Both are valid answers. All of life's answers, when taken to it's logical conclusion, suggests the worst thing that can possible "happen" to a human is to interact with another human. It's all down-hill from there.  The only thing that spoils the logic is the ultimate of counter-logic: Love .  Logically, my parents should have hit me over the head with a shovel, ending the misery of everyone involved. Luckily, they did not. They didn't not because I was such a charming child, but because their love for me overpowered the frequent urge to hold my little head under the bath water until it stopped bubbling.

And I was a good kid Smiley

And within this logic de-railment lies the key to the human race being so stupid / smart as to justify themselves as "Righteous" and yet STILL find a mate who will reproduce their offspring. That little counter-intuitive chemical reaction known as "Love".  And "Love" happens as a game of chance. There is no formula for success.

Finally, in the hopes of tying up some of the loose ends out there who have "Seen their best friends leave the bar with 2 women"  cheer up.  I know, I know. I've been both the guy who leaves with the women and I've been guy who's date has left with that guy. The key here is the choice of whom to associate with:  Interesting people, or Honest people.

Honest people never get called to the party unless someone needs a ride. Interesting people never get 2am calls to ask for help, lend an ear, or just have fantastic intelligent conversations.

Pick who you want to be, and be that person. People, male and female, both PREFER to be with reliable people, and YEARN to be with interesting people. Booze and Barroom situations shift the balances in one direction, and your "interesting" douchebag will take your woman while you're so worried about "Coming across right" and "Minding your manners"

In essence:  All women say they want a caring, sensitive man - until the moment a real man walks through the door and offers them a ride on their bike.
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