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Author Topic: Dragon Tamers - A room for those of us with anxiety / depression / etc  (Read 74485 times)
Banfili
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« Reply #1625 on: April 15, 2018, 01:15:54 am »

Well said, Mr Bailey
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« Reply #1626 on: April 16, 2018, 04:16:57 am »

No real worries other than the worldwide ones. Sciatica is giving me hell, but then that's nothing new. Had a bad moment yesterday, when I thought I'd left my harps (harmonicas) at a venue where several dulcimer society friends and I just gotten through holding an Instrument Petting Zoo for the kiddies (don't worry, I didn't leave them out for the tykes to blow on and spread my horrific germs; I just habitually keep the set in my banjo case, and of course had to take out the zippered pouch in order to take out the banjo, so...).

The kids were ho-hum about my banjos and the dulcimers, but boy, did they go after my mandolin and bodrhans, and my friend's el cheapo fiddle (one of those black things you can buy at a music store for 90 to 120 smackers)! We had our hands full just keeping them from playing too hard with those.

Is it mean-spirited of me to be distrustful of child hands all over my instruments? that's one worry I have, that I might be a mean old b*stard at heart. That possibility kind of bothers me...
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« Reply #1627 on: April 16, 2018, 12:03:10 pm »

Don't think your a "mean old b*stard at heart" for not wanting people - and kids are sort of people - pawing all over your instruments, MW! I don't like people pawing mine, either, and they don't need to be blown into!! Grin
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« Reply #1628 on: April 16, 2018, 04:59:33 pm »

And there's nothing really wrong with being a mean of b*stard if you want to be, although it's a self-limiting condition 'cos after a while you find there's no-one around for you to be mean to!
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« Reply #1629 on: April 17, 2018, 09:34:08 pm »

And there's nothing really wrong with being a mean of b*stard if you want to be, although it's a self-limiting condition 'cos after a while you find there's no-one around for you to be mean to!

My dear Mr Bailey, on rereading my previous post I realise that I may have inadvertently given the impression that I believe you to be a 'mean old b*stard'.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  Please accept my apologies for any offence I may have caused.
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« Reply #1630 on: April 20, 2018, 07:50:48 pm »

Mr. Bailey, might I posit that you are not, in fact, a b*stard at heart, but merely someone who is wise enough to have seen how reckless children can be, and have learned the hard way the value of a dollar?
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« Reply #1631 on: April 26, 2018, 09:04:22 am »

I have returned from travel, and am confronted by what I call the post convention depression (though in this case it was essentially a 90 day convention, so the hieghts from which I've fallen result in a mighty resounding smack when I hit). And my psychological tendency to withdraw and hide for months is reering it's head. I've pushed past my comfort zone to do something I dreamed of, and enjoyed doing. The doing of it was hard work, with sacrifices and challenges and I reveled in the doing of it. But now I'm not doing it and my psyche is folding like origami to pull itself in a disappear for a while.

That's not how I want or need this to go.

I think I'm working my way out of it again, but the time I've been under has mounded up the workload I should have been on lately and so now the mound is intimidating to even contemplate starting work on.

I suppose there is nothing for it but the doing. But how? I guess it's just one of those eating elephants things.
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« Reply #1632 on: April 26, 2018, 10:46:41 pm »

I have returned from travel, and am confronted by what I call the post convention depression (though in this case it was essentially a 90 day convention, so the hieghts from which I've fallen result in a mighty resounding smack when I hit). And my psychological tendency to withdraw and hide for months is reering it's head. I've pushed past my comfort zone to do something I dreamed of, and enjoyed doing. The doing of it was hard work, with sacrifices and challenges and I reveled in the doing of it. But now I'm not doing it and my psyche is folding like origami to pull itself in a disappear for a while.

That's not how I want or need this to go.

I think I'm working my way out of it again, but the time I've been under has mounded up the workload I should have been on lately and so now the mound is intimidating to even contemplate starting work on.

I suppose there is nothing for it but the doing. But how? I guess it's just one of those eating elephants things.

It is so often the case after completing something special one feels a sence of anti-climax, and unfortunately the higher the achievement the deeper the subsequent low. I do hope you can find a new focus to lift your spirits and give you back that sence of enjoyment you flt when working towards your previous goal.

All the best,
Miranda.
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« Reply #1633 on: April 26, 2018, 11:22:54 pm »

And there's nothing really wrong with being a mean of b*stard if you want to be, although it's a self-limiting condition 'cos after a while you find there's no-one around for you to be mean to!

My dear Mr Bailey, on rereading my previous post I realise that I may have inadvertently given the impression that I believe you to be a 'mean old b*stard'.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  Please accept my apologies for any offence I may have caused.





Ms, Courcelle, do not concern yourself; no offense was taken.



Mr. Bailey, might I posit that you are not, in fact, a b*stard at heart, but merely someone who is wise enough to have seen how reckless children can be, and have learned the hard way the value of a dollar?



Dr. Smithson, Thank you, I had not looked at it in quite that way.
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« Reply #1634 on: May 02, 2018, 11:41:42 pm »

And there's nothing really wrong with being a mean of b*stard if you want to be, although it's a self-limiting condition 'cos after a while you find there's no-one around for you to be mean to!

My dear Mr Bailey, on rereading my previous post I realise that I may have inadvertently given the impression that I believe you to be a 'mean old b*stard'.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  Please accept my apologies for any offence I may have caused.





Ms, Courcelle, do not concern yourself; no offense was taken.



Mr. Bailey, might I posit that you are not, in fact, a b*stard at heart, but merely someone who is wise enough to have seen how reckless children can be, and have learned the hard way the value of a dollar?



Dr. Smithson, Thank you, I had not looked at it in quite that way.


And what's wrong with being a b#stard curmodgeon anyways? Sometimes I just feel better when I'm behaving like one  Tongue  Grin

"Get off my lawn! And pull up your pants!"
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« Reply #1635 on: May 06, 2018, 06:45:03 am »

And there's nothing really wrong with being a mean of b*stard if you want to be, although it's a self-limiting condition 'cos after a while you find there's no-one around for you to be mean to!

My dear Mr Bailey, on rereading my previous post I realise that I may have inadvertently given the impression that I believe you to be a 'mean old b*stard'.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  Please accept my apologies for any offence I may have caused.





Ms, Courcelle, do not concern yourself; no offense was taken.



Mr. Bailey, might I posit that you are not, in fact, a b*stard at heart, but merely someone who is wise enough to have seen how reckless children can be, and have learned the hard way the value of a dollar?



Dr. Smithson, Thank you, I had not looked at it in quite that way.


And what's wrong with being a b#stard curmodgeon anyways? Sometimes I just feel better when I'm behaving like one  Tongue  Grin

"Get off my lawn! And pull up your pants!"




Ah. Yes, there is that Wink  Cheesy
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« Reply #1636 on: May 15, 2018, 05:59:20 pm »

"Get off my lawn! And pull up your pants!"




he's far far away from your lawn and his pants are up.
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« Reply #1637 on: June 03, 2018, 02:35:26 pm »

Hi Both my son and I have Aspergers so we sort of live with stress anxiety and depression everyday. Over the years I have become quite knowledgeable on ADR and related illnesses if anyone wants to share or talk about it I am always happy to help and if I can't answer your questions I have friends who are experts who can. 
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« Reply #1638 on: July 03, 2018, 04:33:56 pm »

Welcome, Karloff.
Find a chair or quiet nook in our cozy "room" and the tea will be circulated shortly via self-propelled tea cart. I believe shortbread are on the cart as well today, lovely little things one can't help but eat too many of.



Hello again, all.
I feel I've been away much too long this time... perhaps mentally if not temporally. Hope everyone's well? ish? esque?

Faithfully,
Rose Inverness
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« Reply #1639 on: July 27, 2018, 12:56:55 am »

-wanders in, takes a seat near the fire- Hello everyone, I know it's been ages since I was last here.
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« Reply #1640 on: July 27, 2018, 07:00:42 am »

-wanders in, takes a seat near the fire- Hello everyone, I know it's been ages since I was last here.

Welcome back Ms. Carton!

It has been some time since I have seen someone enter this sanctuary.

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« Reply #1641 on: October 05, 2018, 04:45:46 am »

All are welcome, first time or return, but I find it hard to say good to see anyone here as it's usually a sign of depression or anxiety making your lives harder, sooo... condolences? lol.

I've self inflicted mood wounds tonight. I got a recommendation tonight on youtube to watch a reactor watching a classic anime for the first time. and then fell down a rabbit hole. Jupiter Jazz 1&2, Real Folk Blues 1&2, An Alchemist's Anguish, Separate Destinations. That right there is a good couple hours of soul crushing. I'm not sure why I did that to myself. But it has brought back some memories of some of the absolute best story telling in my lifetime, and some of the best music.

I kind of appreciate the sort of nostalgia for the soaking in those things again. They hit resonant spots in the middle of my soul that are like keystones in my sense of self and place in the world... But I hope this isn't the beginning of a brooding dark period in my future (one that I remember from my past quite well).
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« Reply #1642 on: October 24, 2018, 05:09:41 am »

I found out that people watching (a thought provoking animated series on youtube for 'Cracked', by the creator of 'Subnormality' a web comic) has a second season and have watched them. One of the recent episodes reminded me of http://www.viruscomix.com/page590.html?fbclid=IwAR086Dk-vIe3AwYYjQqeFr5C_6gJfAu3VW4FlXhXbWEyg3RyBMmPdjASTv8 which is one that's borrowed into my soul what feels like a lifetime ago.

it doesn't even really hurt anymore, it's a gentle sorrow like time spent with an old friend remembering lost innocence and dreams of the future that can't or won't ever come to pass.
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« Reply #1643 on: October 28, 2018, 03:24:14 pm »

so I've discovered that part of my routine that I trying out right now has had some surprising and not so surprising benefits. Specifically my internet recreational use being relagated to an hour of time one hour after waking up. (I wake, do breathing exercises, and then cardio, before showering, so that's my first hour).

One is I don't want to waste my time arguing about nonsense with people, or seeking out things that are wrong or finding something to be offended about and spouting off about. I literally only have enough time for the things that are important to me and that I care about.

The urge to just look something up or use the net during the day is still strong, that need for instant gratification. But if I just make a note of it, the next morning I have a list of things to use the net for. and They have to be selectively applied, because I have contacts and interactions I want in my life to use some of my time. That means only the priority one on my list get taken care of.

This also benefits me in that I don't defuse my efforts and energies each day between 30 things or fall down rabbit holes for 3 hours.

all of this was sort of expected. But what wasn't expected was that setting my internet use for the second hour of my day after breathing, exercise and showering, is that those things I'm itching to use the net for, that built up over the last day, mean that I jump into doing things with motivation first thing. Overcoming the inertia of starting the day 1 hour in, gets me going for a whole days worth of work by just keeping the momentum going.

I think this is a very useful pattern. and I thing once I just work out sequence of schedulable events on internet and social interactios It will make my life run much more smoothly and increase my ability to do and experience the things in my life that I want, while decreasing stress and burn out.
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« Reply #1644 on: November 09, 2018, 03:24:57 pm »

This week. Scan Results follow up appointment at short notice. Letter saying why arrived morning of appointment day. 3 things that need further looking at. Cyst on ovary, change in lung and a different scan required on part of my bowel.  Having lost one of my sister's to Ovarian Cancer I was barely holding back panic. Then my Taxi was 40 minutes late Jittered all the way to the Hospital.  Staff at Hospital calm and highly professional. Arranged blood test immediately wrote referral letters and put me on the list for a procedure they can do there, they estimate it will be in early December.  Anxiety triggers very likely from now on.
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« Reply #1645 on: November 12, 2018, 03:54:22 am »

Sorry to hear this walking stick.  I have my fingers crossed for you.
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« Reply #1646 on: November 12, 2018, 11:23:17 pm »

You are in my thoughts walking stick.
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« Reply #1647 on: November 13, 2018, 12:19:58 am »

This week. Scan Results follow up appointment at short notice. Letter saying why arrived morning of appointment day. 3 things that need further looking at. Cyst on ovary, change in lung and a different scan required on part of my bowel.  Having lost one of my sister's to Ovarian Cancer I was barely holding back panic. Then my Taxi was 40 minutes late Jittered all the way to the Hospital.  Staff at Hospital calm and highly professional. Arranged blood test immediately wrote referral letters and put me on the list for a procedure they can do there, they estimate it will be in early December.  Anxiety triggers very likely from now on.

I do hope the prognosis is a positive and hopeful one,

Wishing you all the best,
Miranda.
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« Reply #1648 on: November 21, 2018, 06:54:25 pm »

so I've discovered that part of my routine that I trying out right now has had some surprising and not so surprising benefits. Specifically my internet recreational use being relagated to an hour of time one hour after waking up. (I wake, do breathing exercises, and then cardio, before showering, so that's my first hour).

One is I don't want to waste my time arguing about nonsense with people, or seeking out things that are wrong or finding something to be offended about and spouting off about. I literally only have enough time for the things that are important to me and that I care about.

The urge to just look something up or use the net during the day is still strong, that need for instant gratification. But if I just make a note of it, the next morning I have a list of things to use the net for. and They have to be selectively applied, because I have contacts and interactions I want in my life to use some of my time. That means only the priority one on my list get taken care of.

This also benefits me in that I don't defuse my efforts and energies each day between 30 things or fall down rabbit holes for 3 hours.

all of this was sort of expected. But what wasn't expected was that setting my internet use for the second hour of my day after breathing, exercise and showering, is that those things I'm itching to use the net for, that built up over the last day, mean that I jump into doing things with motivation first thing. Overcoming the inertia of starting the day 1 hour in, gets me going for a whole days worth of work by just keeping the momentum going.

I think this is a very useful pattern. and I thing once I just work out sequence of schedulable events on internet and social interactios It will make my life run much more smoothly and increase my ability to do and experience the things in my life that I want, while decreasing stress and burn out.


Truly glad to see this working out so well for you.

Very depressed and alone, myself. Feel invisible. Like no one cares.
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