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« Reply #1550 on: March 07, 2017, 06:52:19 pm »

I don't mind answering, but it's mostly because there are those who would misunderstand what I say because of how I have to say it. I'm still trying to figure out what the something is, myself...

I opted to distance myself from my peers as much as possible. My best friend at 16 was an 86 year old lady who lived up the street, for instance. I used my spare time to study and learn. Didn't have friends my own age until my senior year of high school and a little after
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« Reply #1551 on: March 07, 2017, 08:56:27 pm »

http://www.sfgate.com/style/article/Men-s-clothes-for-women-Suit-yourself-4223929.php

the concept of a dapper is essentially that of women who like an wear suits, vest/waistcoats over button down shirts and trousers, ties and bow ties etc can get them in cuts and shapes that fit and can be tailored for the female shape.

it sounded from your description before that you liked the suited attire but were concerned it would come across masculine. It's a little hard to find a decent breakdown of Dappers as it's a somewhat unmentioned aspect outside of the LGBTQ community and it's a term with different meaning in the past and some regions of the world, so results don't always turn up what you are looking for.
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« Reply #1552 on: March 07, 2017, 09:28:56 pm »

I've heard the term thrown around LGBQT circles. Not very often though. There's a neighbouring apartment complex where I see a car owned by a transman with a logo "dapper"  Grin  At least in my neck of the woods, very few cisgender men still refer to themselves as "dapper" as that is an anachronistic term nowadays. Cisgender women and Queer Folk will tend to use the term more often.

The concern that it might be too masculine is a valid one though. A suit can be very masculine. The cut of the suit will be the only outline visible to people. I think I'm stating the obvious, but it is a very tricky balance because pre-transition you are approaching it from the male side. Basically when you are on the male side, you need to push the feminine side into view.
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« Reply #1553 on: March 08, 2017, 07:18:50 am »

I've heard the term thrown around LGBQT circles. Not very often though. There's a neighbouring apartment complex where I see a car owned by a transman with a logo "dapper"  Grin  At least in my neck of the woods, very few cisgender men still refer to themselves as "dapper" as that is an anachronistic term nowadays. Cisgender women and Queer Folk will tend to use the term more often.

The concern that it might be too masculine is a valid one though. A suit can be very masculine. The cut of the suit will be the only outline visible to people. I think I'm stating the obvious, but it is a very tricky balance because pre-transition you are approaching it from the male side. Basically when you are on the male side, you need to push the feminine side into view.


Except even in guy-ish mode (basically comfy clothes, no makeup, etc), I get gendered correctly about 50/50, and it's improving...
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« Reply #1554 on: March 11, 2017, 03:18:02 am »


*snip*

I know I'm tying knots I should not be tying when I recount my daily events - you're right. But GAH how uncomfortable it is right now. The strangeness continued today with weird events. I mean, REALLY? Read this:

Today I had a pretty weird day with some strange bearded guy I've never met, or talked to, coming into the shop right in the middle of the day, when I was tending a line of customers, and him cutting into the line and interrupting -and with my boss present tending the other customers (!) trying to shake my hand, presenting himself as a married war veteran  Huh , saying that he had seen me many times outside and asking my name and then coming back 15 minutes later to ask me if I was gay  Tongue  Huh

What?  Huh WTF? Nothing wrong with the question, I am, after all, wearing my gender fluidity on my sleeve (and in another thread I did say I was going to be *extra* girly today  Roll Eyes because of how I feel today).

Alright, *snip*

GAAAAH! THE STALKER IS NOW A CUSTOMER AT MY SHOP!! I'm really not happy with this situation! This is bad! Now he's got an excuse to come in and wait outside!
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« Reply #1555 on: March 19, 2017, 01:00:12 am »

People have been asking me how much mt leatherwork costa. O_o I've never been good enough at something that people wanted to pay money for it. It's simultaneously awesome and terrifying
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« Reply #1556 on: March 22, 2017, 12:39:37 pm »

People have been asking me how much mt leatherwork costa. O_o I've never been good enough at something that people wanted to pay money for it. It's simultaneously awesome and terrifying

That is brilliant; if you do decide to make for others don't undersell yourself either.  You're worth it.
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« Reply #1557 on: March 25, 2017, 05:04:09 am »

Truthfully, I wouldn't know what a fair price would be. I've never had to do it before.
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« Reply #1558 on: March 25, 2017, 06:56:30 am »

People have been asking me how much mt leatherwork costa. O_o I've never been good enough at something that people wanted to pay money for it. It's simultaneously awesome and terrifying


That sounds like a good advertising slogan. "My leatherwork is simultaneously awesome and terrifying"  Roll Eyes

*snap*

Truthfully, I wouldn't know what a fair price would be. I've never had to do it before.


Look at others who have done leather before you. Skinz n' Hidez (Ian Finch-Feld) is a long time Canadian Steampunk who has done Steampunk leather pieces for various celebrities... He used to be a frequent visitor at Brassgoggles 6-7 years ago.

https://www.etsy.com/shop/SkinzNhydez
http://skinz-n-hydez.synthasite.com/
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« Reply #1559 on: March 26, 2017, 08:21:32 am »

The best advice I ever got about selling my creations was: you could spend all day every day making these to sell to everybody who wants one, or you can decide how many you are willing to make in a month, and price them so that there are only slightly more people who will pay for them than there are items to buy. Then start a waiting list.

Say you could sustainably make 5 in a month, set your price such that seven people would buy them. put two on the waiting list. keep showing and seeding word of mouth the whole time. By the time you finished the seventh one you should have picked up another one or two for the month if not a full month and waiting list again. if there are no buyers to finish a month, start an online store and maintain them as stock until they sell.

the next bit of advice: you will sell hundreds of heart shaped napkin ring that will afford you the chance to make the amazing piece you want to make.

basically, hair ties, bracelets, and other cheap trinkets that you could knock out a dozen in an afternoon and sell for 10$ provide buyers a chance to buy the work of an artist for little more than skipping a cup or two of coffee this week from some big chain, and they get to show off the piece they got from the artist and talk about the other things the artist does with friends. 12 x 10 = 120 for an afternoon when you pull cost of materials out still looks better than the hourly rate I can get for working in a retail store in this area for a days work. It may be intermittent but a little extra in here or there is always nice.
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« Reply #1560 on: March 27, 2017, 03:31:02 pm »

good advice from Rovingjack; otherwise add up cost of materials and sundries (wear and tear on tools, power for equipment, power to light and heat your working area, etc) work out how long each piece takes to make and give yourself at least a living wage, add the two together and you have a price. 
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« Reply #1561 on: April 30, 2017, 06:15:36 am »

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« Reply #1562 on: April 30, 2017, 11:45:57 pm »






Hmmm...


So... Anybody wanna hang out? Wink
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« Reply #1563 on: May 01, 2017, 02:11:59 am »

Currently this is me hanging out, 1:30 in the morning checking my interest groups.  I have some contact with neighbours and a monthly family visit and that's it till I get to a convention in a few weeks. I'll go in persona for that, being me isn't my best option right now.
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« Reply #1564 on: May 01, 2017, 08:20:48 am »


Hmmm...

So... Anybody wanna hang out? Wink

I have intended to finish a creative project for months that got rushed by an externally assigned deadline that closes the opportunity in the next 48 hours... Basically something I've been planning for for over a year will become impossible to do on may second. But if I complete it before then it will be possible ever after.

I was crushed when I found out my planned timeline of being done in June was not possible and I couldn't speed it up, Then I came up with an alternative that I could do to get the idea out there in time and allow me to rework the others later. I spent 6 hours one day building the skeleton of it and then spent the next weeks telling myself it's a stupid idea that I'll never succeed at and nobody will care the least if I did anyway. I keep trying to make myself complete it, but I keep shooting myself down.

and now I have about 21 hours to write, record, edit and annotate this dream I had before that door closes. and it will be months before I can even begin to figure out alternatives form I can wrestle the other ideas into and make them happen, if I just don't give up on them entirely...
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« Reply #1565 on: May 01, 2017, 02:58:33 pm »

Finding it a bit hard to stay positive at the moment as, although I had a great time at Whitby Goth Weekend last week, I have come home to the same problems I left behind only magnified by bad news within the family.  Sometimes it's hard to be cheerful.
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« Reply #1566 on: May 02, 2017, 02:02:53 pm »

Well I did it... Kinda. lol.

I was using a microphone I'd never used before, using audacity for audio recording for the first time, converted it all in windows movie maker using an image my cellphone snapped accidentally a few months back. I wrote half the script today and there is a grand total of 16 hours between concept and posting part one.

Sooo, in the grand scheme of things it's a bit Meh, but a meh, start is better than no start.

If you get the chance check out Feytown Noir: A Yout-Choose Adventure

http://brassgoggles.co.uk/forum/index.php/topic,48986.0.html

PS, still hate the sound of my own voice, but you work with what you have. You wouldn't believe how many takes of audio I did just to get this.
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« Reply #1567 on: May 10, 2017, 08:07:16 pm »

Wellness check. How is everybody doing?

In the last month I've had several flairs of my digestive system illness, yesterday morning had me in such pain I had to lay down on the bathroom floor in order to avoid passing out from the pain. So after those events I'm a bit emotionally shaky and feeling like I'll never be healthy or safe again. It will pass but it's definately a mood disrupter.

and playing into that is the property we live on is, an old victorian. The new owners (after the landlord died last year) have started sanding and painting the trim downstairs and are talking about remodels they are planning. And I can't help but be anxious about lead paint dust. Not just for my potential exposure but for the toddler who is here 3 nights a week. The light sanding of encapsulated door and window frames down stairs through multiple closed doorways probably isn't a big deal. But if they do rip out a doorway and take down and rebuild the whole porch I'ts possible the property could become a veritable hazmat site.

at least that's what my anxiety keeps telling me. I have to keep reminding myself that I'm old enough and lived in nothing but houses built before 1970 for more than 30 years of my life. And every one of those houses had renovations and was sanded and repainted multiple times. I've had my blood tested for lead after living in this house for 5 years and seeing a similar renovation a year before the test. My levels came back lower than the average American, less than a tenth of a level of note for such a test, and less than a 30th the level at which medical treatments are prescribed.

I still keep worrying about the toddler though. Might get an air filter too, just to be safe. And maybe be the canary in the coal mine by getting before and after tests to watch my levels.

I also keep reminding myself that for over 100 years houses were built and repainted with the stuff and somehow 90% of the population didn't turn into psychotic zombies. And there are other countries with houses, some older than our country itself, with people living and working and remodeling the buildings and they are all doing quite well.
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« Reply #1568 on: May 10, 2017, 10:54:35 pm »

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Hmmm...


So... Anybody wanna hang out? Wink
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Yep. So ... watcha wanna do, MW?
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« Reply #1569 on: May 12, 2017, 05:13:54 am »

the new owners of the place I've lived all these year is kicking us out. I could almost handle having to find a new home, but this situation means that I lose one of the best housemates I ever had, and a toddler in my life 3 nights a week who was so much fun.

This literally puts my whole life back in storage as I try and figure out where I will be living. and it tears away any sense of stability I had.
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« Reply #1570 on: May 15, 2017, 08:49:22 am »

wow.




Hmmm...


So... Anybody wanna hang out? Wink
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Yep. So ... watcha wanna do, MW?
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Well, we could go watch the normos come in and gawk at a steampunk or SF con (lol)...

Seriously, we all seem to be separated by several hundreds of miles. I can't travel too awfully far these days, gotta stay close to home and take care of aged relatives, but there's occasionally SF and Anime cons in Houston...
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« Reply #1571 on: May 15, 2017, 11:22:48 am »

Well, thousands of miles, from my place. But I will be heading to Ireland for three weeks on the third of June!
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« Reply #1572 on: May 15, 2017, 01:24:37 pm »

I feel useless.
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« Reply #1573 on: May 16, 2017, 08:02:13 pm »

I feel old as I reply to ads that are all 'kids' and I realize I'm soon 40 and looking for roomshare/flatmates. My closest friend and soon to be former housemate is late 30s with a toddler and deserves to live in his own place and find a nice girl and have the life he should. and I don't even have my health.

Not only that, but I've lost my job some time back, my car in the last 8 months, my home of 8 years in the last month, and the closest thing to a family I had. Meanwhile most of my social connections have moved to other regions, and the house I lived in for all of highschool and that my mum lived in since then has been sold, and the all the family heirlooms we grew up surrounded by can't go with her to the seniors housing community so much of my childhood is disappearing.

and here I sit 40, no past, no present and no future.

I'm sure I'll manage to pull something out of my ass and just keep going but a pretty harsh realisation to look at where I am and be aware that I'm closer to the life expectancy cap than I am to the cradle and this is what I have to show for my time here.
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« Reply #1574 on: May 16, 2017, 08:33:11 pm »

I feel old as I reply to ads that are all 'kids' and I realize I'm soon 40 and looking for roomshare/flatmates. My closest friend and soon to be former housemate is late 30s with a toddler and deserves to live in his own place and find a nice girl and have the life he should. and I don't even have my health.

Not only that, but I've lost my job some time back, my car in the last 8 months, my home of 8 years in the last month, and the closest thing to a family I had. Meanwhile most of my social connections have moved to other regions, and the house I lived in for all of highschool and that my mum lived in since then has been sold, and the all the family heirlooms we grew up surrounded by can't go with her to the seniors housing community so much of my childhood is disappearing.

and here I sit 40, no past, no present and no future.

I'm sure I'll manage to pull something out of my ass and just keep going but a pretty harsh realisation to look at where I am and be aware that I'm closer to the life expectancy cap than I am to the cradle and this is what I have to show for my time here.

Welcome to the club  Undecided and I'm 8 years ahead of you.

The correct solution of course is to not give up. You will have to make a new family of your own - start anew (no I won't critique you for feeling old at 40, but then again look at me; a few days ago a young woman was flirting with me-and she thought I was about 30 I often get told that, so there is still hope. My principal enemy in this regard of relationships is a deeply prejudist American society in terms of age, gender and race - welcome to the Neo-Puritanical Racialist Alt-right America. But I don't have to choose an American as a partner.

Your new family need not be necessarily genetic; as I don't remember your situation regarding your preference for close human relationships, but you don't need to have a sexual relationship to love anyone.

The fundamental problem is that loneliness is not just a sentimental problem, it's also a survival issue. We humans are gregarious by nature and a smaller more intense nuclear relationship, ie limited to just a few people, is required to form a family unit. When you are in trouble and the chips are down, only that very small nuclear group will come to your aid (as it is, even extended family is usually not helpful and even hostile to some family members, so having a very strong intimate relationship with someone(s) is paramount for human survival.

At least that's my opinion - to be taken with a giant grain of salt.
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