One last (from me) cautionary note - a large portion of "the mainstream" may well be a different subculture thinking we're all plebians. Just because someone is not into your favorite quirk doesn't mean they don't have one of their own.
Or several..... I know from the bellydance scene, it's the quiet ones you have to watch.... lol
Oh, thank goodness. Some more voices of my-kind-of-sanity. Lilibat, Mimsy and myself are not alone.